Post # 1
I’m totally gonna sound like a negative nancy here and thats OK with me because this is a total rant post . Sometimes it just feels good to spill your heart and not have to worry about being judged so here we go!
I’ve been engaged for 16 months and my wedding is 2 months away. I love my fiance more than anything but to say that our engagement has been rocky is an understatement….we’ve had to dodge bullets from every angle. Someone’s feelings are always hurt, someone always thinks they need to throw in their opinion, nobody can just keep their mouth shut and realize that I honestly could not care less what they think.
it’s never been a question of “is this right” or “should we reconsider” its more like “how much more can I take before I litterally stab this pen in my eyeball because I’m absolutely certain that would at least distract me from all the bullshit that comes with wedding planning”.
Weddings truly bring out the worst in people… I’m sorry but I actually don’t care that I forgot the extra e in your last name on the RSVP card Aunt Mary and I don’t think it’ appropriate for you to call me and make a huge deal about it. And actually no Future Mother-In-Law I don’t care that you have an opinion about absolutely everything and think that I go about everything wrong. And while we are on the subject sorry Cousin Jill I don’t think you need to bring your 4 children under the age of 4 to my wedding. When did my wedding become about everyone else! This is about me and my fiance and in my opinion you should feel special that I decided to invite you and pay $123.40 for you to enjoy my night.
It’s just been a constant, unrelenting wave of drama and issues from every corner since the day we got engaged and thus far I think I’ve handled it OK… it hasn’t been easy but I just try to tell myself that I can get through it and it’ll all be worth it… now with 2 months to go I’m finding it impossible to hold my tongue. I’m starting to judge people and classify them as rude and obnoxious and I litterally find myself cringing at the idea of going to family functions. I’m telling you it’s bad- I totally get why girls turn into bridezillas…I GET IT.
If I could do it all over I’d have my 30 closest friends and family at a small intimate wedding and I would have gotten married 3 months after I got engaged… no time for squabbles, opinions, or drama… just enought time for a fabulous dress to be ordered!
THere’s a quote in the movie Bride Wars that says something like “Engagements are the Litmus paper of all relationships…” and I have to say that is sooo true. Its only by the grace of God that fiance and I have kept it together thus far and I just pray we hold it together for the next 60 days!
Post # 3
Oh I feel this. We haven’t been engaged as long, but we will be and we’re about 1/4 of the way through and already I’m like “Can we just elope? What about a beach ceremony?” Lol. I think it’s great that you’ve kept your cool thus far, but we all reach our breaking points. I hope writing this made you feel better! Just letting you know – I get it. We just started planning and already the opinion overload is like “GO AWAY!!!!!!!” 😉
Post # 4
I just went to a wedding for about 30 guests – it was great. The church as quite large for so ew people, but it was beautiful, and the reception was inside an art gallery in a small cafe overlooking the water. There was even a small room off to the side that worked great for the couple’s first dance.
Tell them that budget cuts have hit home, just like in the governemnt and cutbacks will result in a trip to Vegas for just the two of you. Elvis and Marylin can be your witnesses, and you can get a Captain Picard stand-in the marry you on the bridge of the Starship Enterprise! Talk about memorable! 😛
You can’t please everyone all the time, ever, so just do your best and make your wedding ahppy for you and your Fiance.
Post # 5
hahaha i love you for this rant! POWER TO YA!!
I feel the same way!!! I really really REALLY wanted to elope from the begining to this point today!
2 more months to go for you! Just try to play nice till then 😛
Post # 6
Couldn’t agree with you more! Being engaged gives you an automatic target for people to give you unsolicted advice… Last night we happily shared we were going to Mexico for our honeymoon, and it turned into a topic about drug cartels :/ A “how exciting, have a great time” would have sufficed!
2 more months to go until my wedding, and I WILL be enjoying my margarita in Mexico afterward!
Post # 7
I feel the exact same way!!! I will never view certain people in the same way ever again after all the drama…and just when you think it’s all leveled off and settled down…in comes a new wave of complaints and absolute crap.
Post # 8
hi miss cupcake can u plase tell me how is the maker of the dress on etsy the isadora ann please pleas e please
Post # 9
Oh man. I can relate and I still have a year left. I quickly learned to not tell anyone of any of my plans until the wedding. The only people who know what is going on is my Fiance and my mom. Everyone else gets to be surprised 🙂
Post # 10
Oh man, I have exactly the same feelings, and I’m half way through my 14 month engagement. And we are only having 50 people! And people are still acting crazy.
My Fiance told me about a month or two ago he never wanted a wedding (he wanted to marry me, but basically just have witnesses). I was so heartbroken at the time, but now, I GET IT!! Even though we are still having somewhat of a destination wedding, with a smaller guest list than most weddings…I wish we had just gone to an island and eloped with maybe my parents and a few friends!
I told him the other day that I know we can make it through anything if we can make it through this engagement. I hope you get through the next two months with the least amount of stress possible! Coming to these boards for support is one of the only reasons I haven’t had a nervous breakdown this week!