Post # 62
When it comes time for the bachelor party, I do NOT want to know a single detail. At all. Don’t want to know about girls, or anything, strip clubs, where he went, nothing. Just want to know that he had a blast, and didn’t sleep with any girl/hooker.
My man has already told me that he feels married and has no interest in flirting with other girls, and all of his bachelor party friends are married/in serious relationships anyways.
He’s getting married to me, after all 😉
Post # 63
I agree with you 100%. I had the unfortunate experience of finding a YouTube video of some ski bunny slut lap dancing my then BF, now Fiance while he was on one of those stupid guy bonding trips. I told him in no uncertain terms what I thought of it.
IMO, with strippers, they are after the $ and that’s more or less understood. But some drunken whore on the ski slope? Who knows, right?
Post # 64
Nope, never. When he committed to me, he commited to our relationship and the sanctity of that. My man would never even dream of going to any sort of “gentleman’s club”-our faith would never stand for that. We have expressed that we may have a small get together with friends when he pops the question-and who knows maybe some of our friends can be introduced 🙂 I also agree that strip clubs are entirely objectifying to women. I feel the same about rap music videos that have women blatantly exposed-I can’t watch that with a straight face, and I find it appalling.
This is why I feel women should know the character of the man they are with, and should watch the man’s character throughout the relationship;discuss major issues, your opinions on what constitutes cheating, etc. There are certain moral issues that I consider dealbreakers-pornography, etc, and this is one of them.
I know my man well enough to know he would never even entertain such an idea.
Post # 65
Is it just me? I interpreted OPs post as she can live w strip clubs, but not interaction with “regular women” at pool parties etc? That’s how I interpreted, and I can see the difference btw a sex worker, that’s concerned w $ vs some drunk skank with who knows what motivation?
Post # 66
I am starting to think there is a point to these bachelor parties after all. They are a litmus test that separates the men who are ready for marriage from those who are not.
Post # 67
He obviously finds flirting/touching other women more important then your feelings. If it wasn’t important to him then he’d have no problems stopping and it wouldn’t even be an issue.
hes not willing to set boundaries in his relationship and that’s a huge red flag.
id put off the wedding
Post # 68
Good point. I sure hope my man passes. He’s never given me a reason to doubt his character, and his Groomsmen aren’t too crazy, so I don’t think anything will happen. But one lesson the Bee has taught me is anything can happen.
Post # 69
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
@weddingmaven: I am starting to think there is a point to these bachelor parties after all. They are a litmus test that separates the men who are ready for marriage from those who are not.
Lol! And I think I agree!
Post # 70
Fiance was to go out tomorrow night ‘on the town’ and I had no qualms about it because I trust him and I know what he is like socially…even under the most dire of influences. I also know what goes on in most establishments…legally and illegally…in both the States and Canada (did you know the laws are stricter in Vegas than in Canada btw?).
This was planned some time ago, but about two weeks ago Fiance asked me if I would be “on call” to come and get him should something ‘get out of hand’ or ‘out of his comfort zone’. I said certainly.
One week ago he started talking to me about his misgivings and I shrugged them off, reassuring him he would have fun.
This past weekend, I did a lap dance for him myself and told him not to touch.
A couple of days ago….the plans have changed?? No strip clubs or women in the scenario now?? AND I am his ride home. Lol.
(just kidding, but you get the point)