(Closed) this girl messed with the wrong family…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am SOOOO sorry to hear that, that is awful!! My brother had a “crazy” girlfriend too. She would like hit him and try and get him to hit her (which he would NEVER do) and then would give herself bruises and stuff! One morning he was leaving for work and driving his truck and she stood BEHIND his truck so he couldn’t back up….so he drive over that cement block in front of his 4 runner and she was HANGING on to his passenger mirror!! Freakin loon! (those are just the first stories that come to mind…there were plenty others) anyways finally he told her she neeed to move out and she took EVERYTHING of his (ps3 laptop tv movies a $600 eco watch my mom bought him and the SHOWER CURTAIN!?!)

 

The best advice I can give is for him to just keep his distance. I know it is probably extrememly hard because of the baby but she sounds like she is willing to do anything at this point. Does he have any witnesses maybe who can testify about all the emotional abuse she has put him through? Or anyone he was with at the time he left??

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry about this.  I don’t see how he would be convicted since he didn’t hurt her.  And don’t you only have a record if you are convicted of a crime?  I hope you get this figure out soon, I would have him get a lawyer now.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow that is an awful situation. I’m not defending the girl because verbal abuse is never okay, but it is unfortunate that your brother did not keep his cool. While he did not assault her, his behavior was also not okay. However that said, I think it will be very difficult for them to actually convict him because she was not in fact assaulted, I do not even get where the assault with a deadly weapon comes from, and well she doesn’t (from what you’ve said) have any proof of what happened. I imagine he could always protest her custody of their child during this situation, especially considering her attitude towards their child (not sure if he would be successful though).But you are so right, he should avoid contact with her unless through formal channels.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Holy cow, this is the exact same thing that happened to my brother. Except that when my brother came home he had a few beers and when the cops showed up they told him to leave and he told them he couldn’t because he had been drinking. Well they made him leave and he had a near fatal car accident and it was all her fault for being such a b. After that she dissappeared off the face of the earth for 5 months and my brother was soooooo depressed. Now 4 years later my brother has sole custody of his son and is married to a super awesome girl and she’s has 3 other babies from different dads. Karma WILL get her sooner or later. I’m really sorry you’re going through all of this.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t see how a remote control is a “deadly weapon” and not actually hitting her is “assault.” Hopefully the court realizes that and he’s not convicted!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

The last time I checked, throwing things at walls and turning over inanimate objects wasn’t assault. She should be locked up for lying.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I am sure the charges will be dropped. I am surprised that they even arrested him. But I dont know the laws in Canada. I hope it all works out. Especially for the baby’s sake.

Hey kasekase! I am from Noblesville. Just thought I would say hi to a fellow IN bride.

Post # 12
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18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think he needs a real lawyer especially since he might have to fight with her over custody.

Post # 13
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes, he should try to get a real lawyer if possible.

@charmedlife357 Hi! Good to see another bee from Indiana out there! I’m actually getting married in VT, though.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

i’m sure she’s a terrible cow – but i can’t help but think that if i had a child and its father was throwing things and overturning furniture (even if there was no intention of harming either of us), i’d be out of there faster than anything. temper like that can lead to much, much worse… i’ve seen it firsthand, and while i may stand for it for myself, i’m 100 percent sure that if a hair on my child’s head is ever harmed, there will be hell to pay.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

honestly if what he says happened, its not ideal for either one of them. he lost his cool and she called the cops.

bottom line, they should have been adults about it, and if they arent gonna be, then they have to face the consequences.

I would suggest that he get a lawyer ASAP. even if the charges get dropped/nolle processed – he will still need to get custody/joint custody or what have you.

 

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