Post # 1
Ok seriously, I am in so much shock right now.
I just found out last night at 1am that my brother was arrested for assault with a deadly weapon. Heres what happened.
His gf of 2 or so years has been treating him like garbage latley. Like…really badly. They have an 8 month old baby together and my brother is only 20 years old. She has been calling him stupid, useless father, worst man shes ever known, idiot, and the worst of the worst was saying to him that their baby is an idiot just like her father (sorry thats so sad)
My brother is an amazing father. He may be young but that child is his life, he would do anything for her. Finally he just lost it, couldnt take it anymore. He stood up, chucked the remote not ‘at her’ but just chucked it, and told her thats enough, shut up. He got really angry, started turning chairs over in the dining room and then left to avoid any actual physical altercation. Well anyways, he comes home a few hours later, does the dishes and starts cleaning up (his gf is MIA) and he gets a knock on the door.
Basically long story short, this Bit*h called the police claiming that he assaulted her with a deadly weapon. How can someone get another person riled up so bad that they flip out, throw something and then accuse them of assault? He now has a criminal record and if he is found guilty in court he could go to prison because of this stupid girl.
Im just so worried for him. I just keep telling my brother, stay away from her, the worst thing you can do is try to make contact with her. Its just so hard for him because she took his baby 🙁 Karma will get her sorry ass…..sorry, rant over.
Post # 3
I am SOOOO sorry to hear that, that is awful!! My brother had a “crazy” girlfriend too. She would like hit him and try and get him to hit her (which he would NEVER do) and then would give herself bruises and stuff! One morning he was leaving for work and driving his truck and she stood BEHIND his truck so he couldn’t back up….so he drive over that cement block in front of his 4 runner and she was HANGING on to his passenger mirror!! Freakin loon! (those are just the first stories that come to mind…there were plenty others) anyways finally he told her she neeed to move out and she took EVERYTHING of his (ps3 laptop tv movies a $600 eco watch my mom bought him and the SHOWER CURTAIN!?!)
The best advice I can give is for him to just keep his distance. I know it is probably extrememly hard because of the baby but she sounds like she is willing to do anything at this point. Does he have any witnesses maybe who can testify about all the emotional abuse she has put him through? Or anyone he was with at the time he left??
Post # 4
I’m sorry about this. I don’t see how he would be convicted since he didn’t hurt her. And don’t you only have a record if you are convicted of a crime? I hope you get this figure out soon, I would have him get a lawyer now.
Post # 5
Wow that is an awful situation. I’m not defending the girl because verbal abuse is never okay, but it is unfortunate that your brother did not keep his cool. While he did not assault her, his behavior was also not okay. However that said, I think it will be very difficult for them to actually convict him because she was not in fact assaulted, I do not even get where the assault with a deadly weapon comes from, and well she doesn’t (from what you’ve said) have any proof of what happened. I imagine he could always protest her custody of their child during this situation, especially considering her attitude towards their child (not sure if he would be successful though).But you are so right, he should avoid contact with her unless through formal channels.
Post # 6
Holy cow, this is the exact same thing that happened to my brother. Except that when my brother came home he had a few beers and when the cops showed up they told him to leave and he told them he couldn’t because he had been drinking. Well they made him leave and he had a near fatal car accident and it was all her fault for being such a b. After that she dissappeared off the face of the earth for 5 months and my brother was soooooo depressed. Now 4 years later my brother has sole custody of his son and is married to a super awesome girl and she’s has 3 other babies from different dads. Karma WILL get her sooner or later. I’m really sorry you’re going through all of this.
Post # 7
Yeah its really messed up. i do not condone his behavior at all, and i told him that. I let him know if he was so unhappy he should have just left a long time ago.
To top it all off, she was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding last week. now shes in all my wedding photos
Post # 8
I don’t see how a remote control is a “deadly weapon” and not actually hitting her is “assault.” Hopefully the court realizes that and he’s not convicted!
Post # 9
The last time I checked, throwing things at walls and turning over inanimate objects wasn’t assault. She should be locked up for lying.
Post # 10
I am sure the charges will be dropped. I am surprised that they even arrested him. But I dont know the laws in Canada. I hope it all works out. Especially for the baby’s sake.
Hey kasekase! I am from Noblesville. Just thought I would say hi to a fellow IN bride.
Post # 11
Thank you! She is a crazy Bit*ch and I just had an hour long conversation with my little brother. Truth is she has taken other people to court before him for stuff. Caused her bff 3000 in lawyer bills because of lies. I truly hope that the court sees her as a nutcase and dismisses the whole thing.
My brother says he’s getting legal aid (free service ) but I strongly advised him to get an actual lawyer. Free might sound good now, but a real lawyer is what he needs to solve the situation for the future. Thanks all for the support, even though this is not my problem, I still feel horrible for him and his baby.
Post # 12
I think he needs a real lawyer especially since he might have to fight with her over custody.
Post # 13
Yes, he should try to get a real lawyer if possible.
@charmedlife357 Hi! Good to see another bee from Indiana out there! I’m actually getting married in VT, though.
Post # 14
i’m sure she’s a terrible cow – but i can’t help but think that if i had a child and its father was throwing things and overturning furniture (even if there was no intention of harming either of us), i’d be out of there faster than anything. temper like that can lead to much, much worse… i’ve seen it firsthand, and while i may stand for it for myself, i’m 100 percent sure that if a hair on my child’s head is ever harmed, there will be hell to pay.
Post # 15
Starlette I agree with you, there is no excuse for the way he acted and if my Darling Husband acted that way I would be out too.
I told him he should have just left when she started treating him like sh*t, but you can never go back and change the past. Im just shocked that she would have the nerve to arrest him for assault and he didnt even assault her. I dunno, Im all pro-breakup in their case but it seems really sh*tty of her to send him to prison over this.
Post # 16
honestly if what he says happened, its not ideal for either one of them. he lost his cool and she called the cops.
bottom line, they should have been adults about it, and if they arent gonna be, then they have to face the consequences.
I would suggest that he get a lawyer ASAP. even if the charges get dropped/nolle processed – he will still need to get custody/joint custody or what have you.