Post # 1
Am I crazy for feeling like that’s not okay? how would you feel?
She just put it on, and I didn’t say anything, but I hated seeing it there. I JUST got it, and it’s the symbol that my man wants to marry me. Me, not her. It’s like it’s to personal, or something. I’m not saying I freaked out, it just made me uncomfortable.
She also started rambeling about how she would hate to have such a big (0.83) diamond ring, she’d never be able to wear it, and oh my god how expensive, and blahblahblah. I wanted to tell her that people are different, and maybe she should try to not sound so judgemental about it. I don’t want to make a big deal about it, it isn’t, I’m just wondering how it would make you feel.
Post # 3
How did she get it to put it on? I wouldn’t be ok with that.
Post # 4
@Bluelight: I think it’s rude that she didn’t ask you if she could try it on. Her comments about ring size and expense sounds like she’s a bit jealous as well.
I wouldn’t confront her about it, but I also wouldn’t hand it to her to look at or let her try it on again. If she asks I’d just say something along the lines of “I prefer not to have anyone else try it on since it symbolizes my FI’s commitment to me” or something like that.
Personally, it doesn’t bother me if people try on my ring as long as they ask first (and don’t make rude comments after).
Post # 5
I would have to say I wouldn’t be ok if that lady just started saying “oh this is nice, but not really what I would go for” – why do you want to try it on if you only want to critisize?
Not that I would let anyone try on my ring – they can look but not touch so to speak 😉
Post # 6
I don’t understand how she just tried on your ring. Was it laying around??
I’d be pissed for a minute or two and then chalk it up to her being rude. I don’t give people like that (aka idiots) a second thought.
Post # 7
If you leave it on your finger, no one will ever try it on…. So now that you know… don’t let people try it on.
Post # 8
@Bluelight:She also started rambeling about how she would hate to have such a big (0.83) diamond ring, she’d never be able to wear it, and oh my god how expensive, and blahblahblah.
Ugh, one my FI’s coworkers say stuff like that all the freaking time and I just want to slap her. She likes her smaller diamond and I LOVE my bigger diamond. Isn’t it perfect how that all works out?
Just curious, how did this girl manage to just slip it on her finger?
Post # 9
Like the poster above, how did she get it? Did you give it to her to try on or did she pry it off your finger? If it was the latter, I’d be pretty pissed. But if I personally took it off and handed my ring to her, I would probably expect her to try it on because otherwise why would she need to see it off my finger? Her comments were a little weird… but I think she was trying to be flattering. I don’t think I would care too much, personally.
Post # 10
I don’t get how she had th opportunity. If you handed it over, then you gave her consent. Where do you live that a .83 diamond is considered large.
Post # 11
She’s from Norway…many don’t wear diamond engagement rings there.
Relax. You said it yourself…it’s a symbol. We’re all sentimental about our rings, but in the end, it’s just a thing. You and only you have what’s behind the symbol…the love and devotion of that man.
I went gown shopping with a newly engaged friend a few weeks ago. Her ring was being sized and she was a little sad. I gave her my ring for the morning to wear while she tried on dresses. I thought it was fun to see it from a different point of view. 🙂
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, but I’ve never had my ring sitting out where someone would be able to grab it and try it on. The diamond comment sounds like jealousy, so maybe take pleasure in that! 🙂
Post # 13
I would be upset that the tried it without asking and that she was knocking it once she did. I’ve never understood the annoyance at trying on other’s rings, though. I’ve tried on my sister’s, she’s tried on mine. My mom asks to try mine on every time I come over, haha! We like shiny things 😉 I probably wouldn’t let just anyone try it on, though, I get that.
Post # 14
If you handed it over to her I wouldn’t be mad…I had the same happened to me but I let her see it. Now, I would have a problem with someone critizing my ring. If the ring is not her preference than that’s great for her to know, you don’t need to know that… It’s special to you and you only….
Post # 15
I’ve handed my ring over to other girls to look at/try on. I don’t really get the minor freak-outs about that being such a transgression… it’s metal and gemstone. His love for you doesn’t transfer to her when she slips on the ring.
I WOULD be annoyed if the girls trying on my rings tossed out those rude comments after, though… yuck!
Post # 16
With my first ring I never let anyone try it on. It was a fabulous three stone princess ring in a trellis with a euroshank. No believed in the superstition that the woman who wore your ring would ruin your marriage. Well that ring was lost Over a year ago. When I got my new ring I let all my friends try it on. It’s fabulous, why not. I even had a couple who said it was gaudy and too blingy & all that. I laughed, put it back on my hand and said ” glad you don’t like it, now there’s no awkward jealousy between use! Seriously, get a grip. It’s a piece of jewelry, not your panties. If you’re one of those “my ring is a symbol of our love” people, it doesn’t change the symbol because it’s sitting on someone elses finger or the box or the box or on the table.