Post # 1
So I’ve been working with this guy for 2-3 months and we could tell there’s been some chemistry . Me and him are always joking with each other, and teasing each other. Especially him he loves teasing me and I’ll tease him back and he’s always laughing at and with me . He will tease me in front of a lot of my co workers , and we will both go back and forth as a joke and a few people have said he likes me and say you guys are in love ? And I DONT SEE that he likes me but a few people have said it and I do like him but I haven’t given any signs except teasing him and being around him and saying little flirty jokes ?
A few days ago I felt I was going to pass out, and he was running around to get me juice and food to make me feel better , and afterwards he told me he went to make the food for me because no one was in the kitchen to do it which I thought was so sweet as he cared for my health; which makes me think he really likes me ? And yesterday we where closing and he was playing music and I said could I put my own on and could you unlock your phone which he did multiple times and didn’t care I was roaming around with his unlocked phone , and I commented saying don’t you care I’m with your unlocked phone ; he said no I have nothing to hide . He also joking about us getting married , and he will get me a very nice ring ? Which is kind of positive signs no?
But then again me and some co workers went to his house yesterday, and on the way there in the cab he purposely went into the front seat ? If he liked me wouldn’t he want to sit next to me in the back? And once again he was teasing me about my hair and I did take it personally but then he said he’s joking I have he best hair , but we just all sat there and watched a movie and that’s it and then I left ? He made no moves on me not even just trying to sit next to me a bit closer or putting his arms around me I don’t get it ? He’s either scared of rejection or just dosnt like me ? But I’m scared to make a move incase I get rejected ? But I do appreciate him being a gentleman I guess but then again I’m so confused ?
Post # 2
Life is too short for stupid games. If you like him, invite him out for coffee or lunch outside of work.
Post # 3
LOL ooooh my god, this is cringe. Bex said it all.
Post # 4
I was going to say this sounds like highschool. Then I saw your age in your other thread which confirmed my suspicions. Stop analyzing his every move & playing games. Ask him if he’d like to hang out outside of work.
Post # 6
Work relationships can be confusing, and a lot of times people get involved just because of proximity. Work relationships can end in a train wreck! Especially if you still need that job after things end badly.
I would be very, very careful about screwing around like that where you work because it will be SUPER awkward if things do not work out. If he isn’t making moves, leave it alone and do your work. I swear to God you will regret opening up a can of worms if he isn’t serious, you got your feelings involved, and now you have to see this man every day. Even worse if he starts flirting with someone else after you do not work out.
Yes, I have experience with this and it was horrible when it ended in the worst way possible. All that joking and laughing and hanging out is great — until folks aren’t serious. Do not do that at work.
Post # 7
i would never date anyone i work with. but if im very frank and i would ask him simply if he was attracted to me and ask him out to dinner. and let it burn or fizzle
Post # 8
I agree with other PP that this is the kind of analyzing and obsessing I used to do in high school. It doesn’t really still have a place when you are an adult.
I’m not really a big fan of girls asking guys out, but if you feel confident enough, go for it… If it were me, I’d probably find out if we had some common interests, and see if there were some events we could attend just as friends. Get to know him outside of work, spend time with him, flirt some more and see if things develop organically from there.
Post # 9
Did a 13 year old write this?? My goodness.
Post # 10
Don’t screw the crew.
Don’t fish from the company pier.
Don’t shit where you eat.
Post # 11
It’s my personal opinion that a man who runs around playing “office husband” for kicks and confusing people’s emotions is an immature person and should not be touched with a 10-foot pole. He’s attention seeking. I would back off of that immediately.