(Closed) This has nothing to do with planning my wedding!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

My goodness!  How stressful for you.  🙁

Is this man aware that a police report has been filed and that you all know his name?  Were charges laid?  Surely a restraining order must be easy to obtain in this situation??

It sounds to me like this guy is just trying to intimidate you and probably won’t do anything.  Then again, people be crazy.

I would seriously look into getting a restraining order, like, yesterday.  Then buddy will know that his name is known to police.

Post # 5
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Not sure the exact words in your area, but were you advised if the police were planning to lay charges (uttering threats depending on exactly what was said) or give him any form of no contact?

Post # 6
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You should call your police non emergency number and ask for advice.

Tell your FH not to keep his temper in check. Don’t fight with random strangers, you are asking for trouble. And document everything, every call or communication from this jerk.

Post # 7
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I will PM you. 


Post # 9
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Wow.  The guy is a total nutter.  I’ll bet the police are going to pay him a visit, and he’ll back off.  I had a former coworker start harassing me by phone.  It stopped the day I was able to prove she was the one doing it.  A sheriff’s deputy went to her home and had some words he wanted to say to her.

Post # 10
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

That would scare me so badly I cannot even imagine the hell you’re going through! I am so, so sorry! 

If you haven’t you need to call the police everytime he makes contact with you and I mean everytime, find out their non emergency number and put it in your phone. Honestly, I would carry mace with me and when you go out to your car carry your keys in your hand so if he ever tries to come after you – you can stab him in the eye with your keys. That may seem extreme but look at how extreme this guy is, don’t under estimate him. I don’t mean to say these things to scare you more, I hope you take this in a positive light and use it to bring up your courage. 

Everything you’ve said thus far seems like you two have it under control and taking all the right steps to keep safe. I would also get a restraining order against this guy so anything and everything he does to you is against the law, even if it is just a text, he can get sent to jail. 

This is scary beyond belief but remember nothing has happened, and currently you are safe.

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