(Closed) This INFURIATES me.

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am shocked by those comments! Wow!

Post # 4
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just can’t believe those comments.  Can. not. believe. them.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

She is entitled to do whatever she wants at her wedding, and people are just as entitled to judge, unfortunately.

People are rude. Especially when they can hide out behind the internet. Her dad’s ok with it, so I don’t see what the big deal is.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i dont understand where the comments are even coming from – it seems like her dad was supportive of the idea, and she even discusses how he said he wouldnt feel comfortable giving her away by himself

frankly, i think that the walking in together is beautiful, and seemed very authentic to who they were as a couple – i don’t think that theres anything selfish about it

those comments are extraordinarily harsh and unnecessary – and reallly, really hateful – terrible

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ouch, I stopped reading the comments half way through.  I understand that in the blogging world, you do put yourself out there to potentially be judged.  But why do people feel a need to be THAT judgemental and nasty?  This is someones life, one that we have no involvement in, we don’t know enough to be so nasty!  Besides that, I don’t see anything horribly wrong with a slightly feminist point of view.  Nor do I see a problem with having a nontraditional wedding.  As long as no one is offended, and it seems they were not. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

And what is with the commenter’s ideas that her dad still wants to “give her away”?  She’d been living with her husband for TEN years!  It’s not as if she’s 18 years old moving out of daddy’s house for the first time.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

OMG those people are awful!  Who says stuff like that!  I am so glad the hive is a better place than that!  NOT COOL!!!!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It sounds like all the comments are from men (with issues about women).  If I had to guess, I’d say someone posted a link to her article on some type of anti-feminist or woman-hating blog, and then directed all of that blog’s readers to go post a hateful comment.  Cause I really doubt these guys are reading $2000 wedding.  You know?  Those comments obviously come from a very ignorant and hateful sector of the population. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I consider myself a proud feminist.  Sometimes, I wonder if I don’t read too much into things, and find anti-woman sentiment where it really isn’t there.  And then I see stuff like this, and I realize how far we still have to go. Why on earth is it that feminists get a bad rap when they’re just trying to live their lives and these people are the ones seen as upholding “family values”.  What a load of crap.  It makes me sick.  But mostly it just makes me sad.

I notice none of these people are flipping out because she didn’t choose to have her mother walk her down the aisle.  Apparently it’s not disrespectful to the mother not the have her participate in this way, but it is disrespectful to the father?

Also, all these will comments- do these people really only treat their parents a certain way because they think they might get money some day when they die?  I would hope that my kids would love me and treat me the same whether I was rich or poor.  But I guess when you insist that the parent-child relationship is all about getting respect based on how much money you spent to raise the child, then it makes sense that they would assume the child would only continue to respect the parent back as long as there was a future financial motivation.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Good lord. I can’t imagine why people would be sooooo worked up over someone else’s wedding? I mean what interest do they have to become such ugly people? And the people so p*ssed off because they lived together or because they weren’t getting married in a church?? These are not ZOMG new things. Looooooooots of people live together before getting married. And LOTS of people (myself included) won’t be married in a church. If they’re really offended that she’s breaking with Christian tradition… perhaps they should be reflections of Christ in their response and be kind?? Being ugly and terrible doesn’t make me think “wow, christian living is the way to go.” 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

Wow.  I don’t consider myself much of a feminist at all, but I had thought about walking down the aisle myself because I’m an adult and marrying my Fiance was a choice I made, not one my father made for me.  The only reason I’m having my folks walk me down the aisle is because my two sisters only had my dad “give them away” (I hate that terminology!) and I wanted my mom to have the opportunity to walk me down the aisle in case it meant something to her to be a part of the wedding in that way. 

I, too, think all the comments about money and wills are ridiculous.  If these people weren’t already being totally awful to this girl, I would question their character based on their greediness alone.  Pray God she has the strength to suffer through THEIR snarkiness without second guessing her decision.  Seriously.  What is WRONG with people?  Just because a computer sits between you and the face of the other person does not give you the right to be horrible to them.  What ever happened to “Do unto others…”  But I guess these folks were too busy reading their parents wills to have time enough to read the Good Book.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

holy crap! that is disgusting! i can’t believe people think that it’s okay to say those things! i mean really, if it’s her and her fathers choice, who give’s a hoot? i’m not having a flower girl or ring bearer.. so i wonder what people would say to that! ugh

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow I’m shocked at the comments! I don’t want to know what they would say about our wedding!!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow. That’s all I can say. I woulda went straight off on those chics.

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