- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Fiance and I got engaged on Dec 21, and since then a lot of people have congratulated us (obviously). Shortly after our engagement (Dec 23), we took a trip where I met a lot of his old friends or long term family friends. Upon meeting them, I was surprised at how many people would say things like, “Congrats on the engagement! so nice to meet you! *And then look at Fiance and say* How’d you get a girl like this to go for you?” or “How’d you trick a good looking girl like this into marrying someone like you?” or “Wow, this gives the rest of us guys hope, how’d you get this good looking of a girl to go for someone who looks like you?”
I didn’t think much of it because i figured it was just his close guy friends giving him a hard time, joking around, and its obviously not true. no big deal. However, these types of comments keep coming and coming from all sorts of different people. Last night we got the same comment from an older woman who i had never met before, but that my Fiance had only met once or twice and just very brief encounters. And it got me thinking…
*Clarification*: I am NOT some drop dead gorgeous model. My Fiance is NOT a hideous beast. We are on very similar levels of attractiveness. So I KNOW their comments are just for fun.
Is this a “typical” way for people to congratulate others when they get engaged? Maybe its just people trying to be funny? Or is it a way to compliment me? And if this is a typical thing for people to say when others get engaged, why? Why does putting down one person have to be apart of a congratulations? Is this something that everyone else heard a lot of when they got engaged? It may be a common thing to say, I just don’t know. To me, it comes across as slightly rude though. Like I don’t understand the need to throw that in there after a congrats….
Also, another clarification, Fiance has never said anything to me about this, I don’t even think he really notices it, he just says, “Thank you, yes, i’m a very lucky guy” or whatever. But if the roles were reversed, my feelings would be hurt if everyone I introduced him to said, “oh, how’ dyou get a good looking guy like that to go for a girl who looked like you?” ……so why is it ok to say to the guy?
so, enlighten me. Is this something that is just a normal/humerous way to congratulate someone? Did any of you other bees hear comments like this and what’d you think of it?