posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
11113 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Rps392: I was like that with an ex, just enjoy lady!

Post # 4
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I have the same problem, but I think it’s because of my Fi’s size. He’s broad shouldered, and has a little bit of a belly (which I love, it’s like a big warm blanket), but it um… gets in the way when he’s on top. I can only climax when I’m on top, and sometimes I just don’t feel like doing all the work. Yes. Suggestions are welcome! Please, someone. πŸ™‚ I second the OP’s motion.

Post # 5
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Rps392:I have a more difficult time climaxing when not on top as well.  Sometimes it just is what it is.  You have to try your best and just forget that and relax and let it flow!  You’ll find when you do that, you’ll surprise yourself and start climaxing in positions you never expected.  My best suggestion, when your having sex, try not to spend every second thinking about making it work, haha.  Agree with Prewitt, just enjoy!

Post # 6
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

my big pregnancy belly causes such a physical and mental distraction for me I can only climax while on top as well. I’ve heard it’s because it offers more direct contact on the g-spot.

Post # 7
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What’s the problem? After 10 years of having sex that’s the only way I’ve ever come from sex.

Post # 8
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

you can try to have sex with him behind you and you/him can manually stimulate you as well.  I think lots of women don’t climax when the guy is on top.  I need either shallow g-spot stimulation or clitoral stimulation, neither you really get when a man is on top.

Post # 9
337 posts
Helper bee

I am going to be another vote for the clitoral stimulation.  It’s what I always require and we’ve both just learned to accept it.

Post # 10
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just know that youre lucky to have the O from sex alone at all!

Post # 11
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is a really common phenomenon, and is usually my experience as well.  One way I’ve had some success with him on top is by slowing it way down and staying really, really close so I get full-on clit contact.  It’s really steamy and sensual overall, too. A great method for lots of kissing and eye contact if you’re into that.

Post # 12
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had some problems with that, but then he threw my legs up over on shoulder (both legs on the same side) and POOF!  It was great

Post # 13
194 posts
Blushing bee

I would just have to say just go with it, and above all else, experiment. πŸ™‚ That way you know for sure that’s the only way you can!

Post # 14
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When I first started, I could only achieve while on my back. It was rough. πŸ™ I second what a few pp’s have said. Try clitoral stimulation, I think I read that a lot of women actually need it to orgasm. We use toys and manual, depending on how rushed we are, but I can usually climax in any position. It’s about experimentation, and what better to experiment with than sex? πŸ˜‰

Post # 15
1714 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Legs on shoulders missionary, changes the angle of entry. Also, foreplay. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay! And possibly throw in some toys if you want πŸ˜‰

Post # 16
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@PitBulLover:  is right…

Statistically 75% of ALL Women, NEVER get a Big-O from intercourse alone … Everyone else needs strictly clitoral stimulation to get there.

So truly not unusual… if you are finding ONLY 1 position of intercourse works for you.

You can certainly try positions (its fun trying different things)… but you should be aware that it may not ever happen for you either


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