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posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i’ve been guilty of complaining about one of my bridesmaids, but for none of the reasons here. but i completely agree with you. on all of this.

they are not slaves, they do not have to cater to your whims. they’re here to stand by your side as you marry the love of your life. not to do all your dirty work.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Agreed!  There used to be s sticky about this, but I don’t see it any more.  I wonder where it went…

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Let me just add that the more ladies you have as bridesmaids, the more headaches you create for yourself.  Even if they are all golden angels with loving hearts and massive budgets, you still have a much harder time finding dresses that look nice on everyone AND that they feel comfortable in, lining up schedules, getting your pictures taken, getting to and from the reception, etc etc etc.  

Do yourself a favor and be very selective. Quality over quantity!! Your guests will have the added plus of enjoying an efficient and speedy processional/recessional. No one wants to watch a proper parade before your wedding.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@RunsWithBears:  (If i recall) The owner was banned for snark much later. /-:

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with most of this. But I do think BMs have certain obligations like throwing a modest bridal shower.

The biggest source of Bridesmaid or Best Man problems is choosing women who aren’t super close to the bride. Don’t expect your cousin who you see once a year or a friend who used to be a BFF but you now rarey speak to be very excited about being in your wedding. Make sure your BMs really are your nearest and dearest best friends.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@WillyNilly:  Ahhh ok.  I was MIA for a couple of months and I must of missed it.  Such a shame, it was a good post.

Post # 10
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Thank you.  As exciting as important as your wedding is, it is important to remember that it the BMs are human people and they also have lives of their very own to deal with.  It’s only natural that sometimes brides can get to wrapped up in their wedding plan filled life, and forget that not everyone is in wedding mode non-stop.  Sometimes it’s good to take a step back, breath, and remind yourself of that 🙂

Post # 12
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1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Completely agree with this!  My BMs are no-nonsense gals so I’m sure if I pulled anything too crazy they would call me out on it and talk sense into me.  That’s what makes them great friends and bridesmaids too!

Post # 14
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@ellebeerob:  While I agree with most of what you’re saying, I’d like to know (in your opinion) what the Bridesmaid or Best Man role is, exactly?

I would argue that even though they are near and dear to the bride, and she loves them with her whole heart, they do have roles. 

Just curious and by no means am I trying to be argumentative – just trying to further the conversation.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@fishbone:  Exactly. There isn’t any amount of money you could pay me to have more than eight bridesmaids. The phrase “herding cats” comes to mind.

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