Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor has a friend who is getting married at the end of next July. Last night my Maid/Matron of Honor called me to ask me a nice way of telling someone that their wedding is going to end up tacky. I laughed and asked if she was talking about me, and she said no, it was for her other friend getting married next summer. I told her that the “t” word gets thrown around so much so I asked her what the theme was and she said “Christmas in July.”
So she goes into more details. Her friend wants to have an outdoor wedding/reception with the theme Christmas. She wants the cool winter colors (blue, silver, white) and wants to serve hot chocolate. She wants the bridal party in long heavy dresses and she is going to wear a dress with sleeves. She wants to decorate the aisle with mini Christmas trees and have two large (over 6ft) trees at the alter. (dressed up and everything) She’s going to string Christmas lights in the tent and get a snow machine. She also wants one of those heaters that looks like a fireplace.
I got stuck on serving hot chocolate…in July. I don’t know where you are in the country, but it’s 95 degrees right now and hasn’t dipped below 80 at night.
What would you do as a best friend? Would you go along with it or tell her the truth since you are a best friend and should be able to be honest?
Knowing this girl, I think a rustic country wedding would be better for her since they are using the family farm property to get married. They have a nice barn on property that can be used for a reception.
Post # 3
I’d start with the hot chocolate and the heavy dresses. At least beg for some consideration with that! Summer is the time for things with ice in them, and clothes that let your skin breathe.
ETA: maybe suggest that the bride go out in the heat for a few hours wearing something similar in thickness to what she or the bridesmaids will be wearing. That could be a good wake up call. Colors, trees, snow machine, etc, all that won’t make anyone uncomfortable and miserable for hours while they sweat.
Post # 4
I would just tell her to go along with it. I had a friend that I helped with her wedding and it was super super “t” but at the end of the night she loved it. The bride and groom are really what it is all about. For the hot chocolate, could she maybe suggest frozen hot chocolate? It is really super yummy and still goes with the theme. Maybe she could just keep suggesting things that will still go with her theme while keeping it a summer wedding.
Post # 4
I see nothing wrong with Christmas in July, some people love Christmas all year long. And as for hot chocolate, in warmer temps. People drink hot coffee in those kind of temps and so why not hot chocolate. I find nothing tacky having Christmas in July, personally. The only thing I would change is having the BM’s and Bride wear dresses that are more tailored to the temps than heavy long sleeves
Post # 5
Hot chocolate and heavy dresses? Yeah, it’s 95 here today too and um, hell no. Emphasis on “hell!”
I’d say that there are ways to incorporate a Christmas feel without risking heatstroke and trips to the ER for her BMs if she’s totally stuck on it… but… I don’t know. It seems wrong for outdoor heat.
Post # 6
She is obviously aware that it’s going to be hot, so has thought about it and decided that she’ll sacrifice comfort for effect. It’s not a theme I’d choose, but if her heart is set on it, leave her to it!
Post # 7
I think as long as the bride is happy and excited then the friend should just go along. Although, I am pretty sure that if I was a bridesmaid in that wedding I might have to speak up. You can pretty much ask me to wear anything, and I will, but I draw the line at heavy dresses in a summer, outdoor wedding!
Post # 8
And I don’t think her guests will love the fireplace heater warming up the tent to god knows how much. If we have a July like this next year, I couldn’t even imagine.
Post # 9
I’d say help her to make her theme work in the hot weather. Lighter dresses for one thing.
To me it is crazy, but the bride must be happy.
Post # 10
Yikes!! Is your friend in the bridal party? If it were me I would leave it alone until the bride dragged me to try on long heavy dresses…
Post # 11
I’m a Realtor and am an heat every single day. No way in hell would I let her make me wear a heavy dress or serve me hot chcolate. Give me strapless and a margarita!
Post # 11
Oh dear…Im all for “Christmas in July SALES” but not WEDDING! Ugh! Sounds like torture! I’d just say, “Hey friend maybe push your wedding to December/January if you really are set on that look/theme?”
I’d just be honest.
Post # 12
I actually kind of like the theme! However, I do think the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses with long sleeves and the fireplace are taking it too far. Maybe there is some kind of fake fireplace she can rent? Also, I don’t know why Christmas = long sleeves….I never wear dresses with long sleeves when I go to a holiday party.
I think the hot chocolate is fine because it won’t affect the guests (unless it’s the only thing she’s serving). I do like the frozen hot chocolate idea, though!
Post # 13
I would be worried most about the heavy dresses. I know I personally hate to be hot and if I ended up sweating hot on my wedding day I would not be a happy camper. As for the the hot chocolate…oh well…it’s a drink. As for the “t” word I would avoid it at all costs. This is the bride’s special day and she probably doesn’t think it’s “t” and her happiness is all that matter.
Post # 13
LOLOL. I can’t even call that tacky; it’s just bizarre. Why not just… have a Christmas in DECEMBER wedding? LOLLLL.