Post # 1
We’re 4 months out now from our destination wedding in Mexico, and the # of guests we’re expecting has really slimmed down, to about 18 or 20. Though we’re cool with a super-small group, I’m feeling anxious about the particular mix of people. In attendance will be my my sister and her husband, my mom (single), my dad and stepmom, FI’s sister, FI’s mom (single), FI’s dad (single), a cousin with his wife and kids, and a few close friends. I really want everyone to mingle and have a smashingly fun time, consdiering the time and money they’ve invested in travelling to our wedding.
FI’s dad and mom have been divorced for decades, my first time even meeting FI’s mom will be in Mexico, my parents are divorced and don’t care for one another, my mom is single and she’ll have no one from her side of the family there to hang out with aside from my sis and I. Our friends are all from different social circles and don’t really know each other. I guess I’m just feeling like this may be an awkward mix, and there’s not a large enough crowd to offset all the the weird dynamics.
I’m up typing this b/c I can’t sleep! Too anxious! Can any other bees relate?
Post # 3
What about planning group activities in the days before the ceremony? It might help people to meet and mingle if they are doing something and not just awkwardly trying to start conversations…I don’t know what kind of options are available, but beach sport competitions, sailing, site seeing etc might help to make everyone feel more comfortable with each other.
Post # 4
Definitely some sort of casual group event before the ceremony should help if there’s particularly shy people on any side. I wouldn’t worry too much though – people will always talk to other people and they all do have a common interest – they’re all there because they love you and they’re supporting your relationship and marriage.
Post # 5
I’m also having a Destination Wedding (in Aruba), and at first i was worried about the same thing, but in the end everyone will have a great time! Hopefully any issues/drama will be put aside for your BIG event and it will be nothing but memorable.
For us we are planning on several group activities and having a welcome dinner for all our guests. Maybe it might help to also do an ice breaker like Martha Stewarts sugestions.
Post # 6
thanks for the feedback, ladies. We had actually been looking into a catamaran tour the night before the wedding, as sort of a welcome recepetion/ activity. i think that would be a good ice breaker. Mostly I just want everyone to have a fun time! Including myself!
Post # 7
i’m in somewhat of a similar situaton – very small wedding and sort of an awkward mix of people (my partner and i are very different and our friends and families reflect this). i think the welcome event idea you have planned sounds amazing.
i’m trying to plan some kind of out of the box welcome event to get people mixing and mingling.