(Closed) This is going to sound HORRIBLE, but……

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1524 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsEME:  Are you kidding, I LOVE getting NO’s!! Especially from the people that MIL invited that I have never met and could care less if they attend!! Less peeps = Less$$$$$!!!!!

Post # 4
3403 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsEME:  You’re not crazy to like to see No’s. I was pretty happy to see a few myself.

What I do think you’re a little crazy for though, is thinking that you could invite 112 people & somehow get enough No’s to get back in the 65 person range..

I think you should have told your mother no to the odd guests. I know you felt like you couldn’t, but you only had enough budget to cover 65 people, even with her contribution, so after that number was reached, it should have just been a nope.

Post # 5
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@MrsEME:  It’s okay, I’m about to go through the guest list thing with my own mother and there will undoubtedly be a struggle to fit her extended family whom I’ve never met vs. people I really care about, and I would LOVE to see like 20 no’s!

Post # 6
1809 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MrsEME:  yikes! I’m sorry you’re stressed! Maybe your mom can loan you some money to hold you over, I know financial things gonna be very hard to deal with especially during weddings! 

Post # 7
5206 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MrsEME:  Everyone wants NOs! Of course you’re not being horrible. Most couples have some degree of forced/obligatory invites chosen by their parents. We wouldn’t have invited 1/2 of our guests if we had paid for it ourselves. 

Post # 8
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsEME:  if u get money after the wedding and its sure thing money like def gonna come in and u will be on track adfter it i suggest asking someone to help you a lil 


i know its no fun askin gor help but its a sure thing u paying them back so wjy not ask and lift some stress i sure ppl will understnad with ballooning guest lists broken drieres and money just not happening lie it was sposta thats all i can really think of 


unless you know a way to cut cost …. like maybe doing a dummy cake *one layer real the otehrs not and using desserts or a sheet cake to make up for the giving it out 


ahhh you could try doing ur own hair and make up or having the brides maids do each others *it always works out better when someone else does someones hair*  most women are pretty capable with their own heads 


ahh you could borrow acciessories form the day form family memebrs and make it speical instead of buying new stuff … make ur something old a fav pair of shoes 



Post # 11
7110 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You aren’t crazy and you shouldn’t feel bad! DH seriously did a happy dance every time one of our “obligatory” people declined. We also wanted a smaller wedding but ended up with a larger wedding due to the sizes of our family and some guests being pushed on us. We were sad about a couple of the declines but TBH we were a bit happy about some of them 😉

Post # 12
3403 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsEME:  That’s understandable.

I went through a bit of a situation in our wedding planning that was stressful financially as well. Car cost $700 to fix, had to pay $400 for new tires on top of that, & found out my medication cost was upped to $140 a month.

You’ll make it through though, & your wedding will be great.


Post # 15
3403 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsEME:  Do you have any vendors that you have yet to give deposits to & sign a contract? There are some things you can definitely live without, such as a pro makeup artist or a hair stylist (if wearing your hair down & curly is an option).

It’s going to sound rude, but we had to let our bridal party know that we wouldn’t be giving them gifts. We had already spent $100 on each bouquet & $60 on their accessories for my BM’s, plus $30 on each groomsmen’s bout & tie. We instead asked them not to get us any wedding gifts & we gave them really personalized cards. They ended up surprising us a scrapbook which was one of our favorite gifts, & one of their wives made our favors, which were cookies & fruit tarts. 

You can also forgo things like bathroom baskets, favors, extra decor on tables, see if you can downgrade the menu, not use china & instead use nice thick plastic, & perhaps see if your photographer would cut an hour or two & not do getting ready pics or the tail end of the reception. (we only had our photographer for 4hrs & that seemed doable, although 5 might have been better). We also didn’t have a DJ, which I don’t entirely recommend, but if you make sure the guests know that requests for music won’t be taken then you can just put the music on autoplay & leave the damn thing alone. Also, you can put a lock on the ipod so that people can’t mess with it & make sure you and one other responsible person are the only one with the password.

I have lots of ways that we kept our 100 person wedding to just over 6k (it was actually quite nice too, for that budget). If you PM me with some details about your big day, I could help you in any way I am able.

Post # 16
892 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MrsSkeletonKey:  Daaaaaaaaang you only spend 6k for a 100 person wedding!?? I am in awe. We are planning only 50-60 people and it is looking more and more like we will have to spend about 10k which I am NOT happy about. At all.

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