(Closed) This is going to sound pathetic, but…(long)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@racheljoy:  You sound a lot like me, except the high school friends part. I didn’t have high school friends (except one girl). I still don’t have many friends. My sister, who used to be my best friend, and I got into a fight about 2-3 years ago, maybe more, I don’t even remember the fight but apparently she does. She won’t talk to me anymore, and I tried so hard to reach out to her, but she doesn’t want to be friends with me and says she can’t trust me. (I don’t even remember what I did! And if it was 3 years ago wel…. I’ve been to therapy and have changed a TON in 3 years!) Sorry to thread jack there for a moment.

I wish you lived by me. I’m also a homebody, quiet type. I like to go out every once in a while, to the mall or the movies, but otherwise I’d rather just chill. I’ve bonded a bit with my SO’s best friend’s girlfriend (by talking about wedding stuff honestly).

I don’t really have any advice because i’m in the same boat, more or less. My only close friend is over an hour away, and is also wrapped up in her life, which I understand.

I will say that my dad was also like me, didn’t have too many friends or people he was close to. But then he met a few guys in the past few years (he’s 43). He says it’s the first time he’s ever had a mature friendship. I hope it doesn’t take that long for people like us, but just know that it does happen, and not just to you and to me.

Post # 4
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am  in the same boat as you. Any chance that you live in Sacramento? I need friends too.I had one friend in highschool and when I returned after four years in the military, she had literally lost her mind. She was practicing some religion that I had never heard of and had been living in her car in Alabama. The first and only tim that I had real friends was when I was in the military. I miss them and wish that I had stayed in touch. Meetup.com is a fun place to meet people that have the same interests. I belonged to the single parent club for a long time.Check out the one in your area.  I guess we have to get out more in order to meet like-minded people.  Good luck!

Post # 6
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@racheljoy:  Awww we sound so much the same – I’m 20 too and I am sooooo not into the partying / drinking scene and am far too upfront & blunt for a lot of people. SO and I consider each other best friends first and partners in crime second ๐Ÿ˜€ But I still know the sting of losing friends and having ex-BFF’s, the ones you thought who’d be there forever say nasty things about you. Mine said I “grew up too fast for her” and held onto issues she had so long that she wouldn’t even try to fix it anymore.

BUT I promise it gets easier, especially bonding over wedding planning and being a homebody, you will find friends who are just like you but they may not be the same age. I’ve taken up rockabilly dance classes an old friend from school runs, and we have become such good friends because we are both in serious committed relationships, full time jobs and don’t want to screw around with immature, judgemental girls.

Other things I’d suggest are just trying new things, any kind of short classes offered in your area, see if you can make friends with someone unexpected ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 7
1527 posts
Bumble bee

Work and classes. I don’t have many close friends, and tend to be closer to my husband’s friends in all honesty. I’m thankful they have girlfriends for me to be friends with! And work is the other place where I’ve made friends. 

Having bad friends sucks. I ate lunch in the math office my entire senior year of high school.

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