Post # 1
It’s been a whle since my wedding, I mean in a few months we will be having our 1st anniversarry. You could say I really wanted it to be perfect and it turned out being really stressful, but one thing I wouldn’t change is who I married, such an amazing man who I’ve known for years, and wer’re very happy.
Problem is yeah, I wanted things to be so perfect, and I tried so hard. I wanted to feel pretty, I wanted to make my husband proud, my parents, everyone. But looking back, my husband never really said much about my dress or how I looked that day…he actually didn’t say anything until I told him he looked handsome and he then responded you look good too. He did look very happy to see me when we saw eachother though, that was really nice. He’s always been uncomfortable with compliments giving and recieving but for some reason I thought this day might be an exception…guess not.
Also, really no one said much about how we looked at all, or about my dress, hair nothing, I don’t remember getting any compliments, just people saying congrats. I posted my photos on facebook and looking back, almost no one commented on them..
I know it’s ridiculous for me to sit here and go hey…someone tell me I”m pretty! lol.. and seriously I didn’t get married for attention which is why it’s just starting to come to a realization now…….but really I feel sad that maybe I didn’t look that great, maybe I tried so hard for nothing. I mean, is it stupid that I feel kinda cheated out of the experience? I look at our photos and I see a gorgeous couple….but it still hurts more than anything that my husbadn didn’t pay it much attention….that I’ve gotten more compliments on a trip to the grocery store than I did on my wedding day.
Post # 3
Post a recap on here with pictures, other brides are much more interested in, appreciative of, and complimentary about all of those little details!
Post # 4
I want to see pictures! I bet you looked beautiful 🙂
Post # 5
I agree! Post pictures! And I am sure your husband didn’t mean to hurt your feelings! He was probably too overwhelmed and a little nervous to mention how beautiful you were! Oh stupid men!:)
Post # 6
I’d love to see some pictures! I’m sure you looked gorgeous!
Post # 7
Aww, sorry you’re feeling blue. I would too if i didn’t feel awesome the day o fmy wedding to the love of my life. It is such an important day!
Strangely, I felt blue whe I posted my pics on Wedding Bee. Our wededing was great, I got tons of compliments, and I felt amazingly beautiful. But when I didn’t get many response from ladies on here I did feel kind of down. Mine was a low budget wedding, and so I attributed it to that.
Weird thing to feel blue about, I know. But I got over it. It helps that people still compiment me on my wedding, and it’s been almost 8 months.
I suggest posting pics, etc on here as well. Maybe your post will be more popular than mine was. 😛
Post # 8
If you post pics on here we’ll tell you you’re pretty haha! I know how you feel mine was only 2 months ago and whils I’m over the moon to be with the love of my life and I wouldn’t change our day for the world I do kinda miss planning the wedding…
Post # 9
Yes…post pics!!! My hubs and I were both really distracted when we got married…it’s easy to look over remembering to say all the right things.
Post # 10
I got married with a five week enegagement because I wanted to marry my husband as soon as possible. If I could go back, I wouldn’t change a thing… I wouldn’t take away one second of our married life together… BUT, because it happened so quickly, and in the middle of a semester at school, other people planned more of my wedding than I did and I was stressed the whole time. I loved my wedding and how I looked, but still, part of me wishes I had the experience of planning it exactly to my taste and having everything just right… I understand how you feel. I imagine you were beautfiul, though! Pics please!
Post # 11
Post pics!! People get grumpy and overwhelmed at weddings. We’ll give you the right reactions 🙂
Post # 12
Perhaps your new husband was stressed out too and just didn’t have the right words on the tip of his tongue, but if you guys are happy, then your wedding was wonderful 🙂
I think some people want to avoid at all costs saying the wrong thing, or being misinterpreted, so they don’t say anything. I wouldn’t worry too much.
Post # 13
Update: While I decided not to post any pictures as I’m a very private person and I’ve always been a afraid someone I know who is also planning a wedding would come across my posts on here….I did get some “reasurrance” so to speak when the designer of my dress (a big designer…I mean pretty big) chose my photo to use on their website because they wanted to see photos of real brides. Seeing my photo side by side with several truly stunning brides was a good feeling. I dont’ even know what made me send my photo in….but it was many months ago and I didn’t think much of it especially since my dress was discontinued I doubted they would use it.
I’m still at a loss why I got cheated out of the experience of being gushed over but I realize there are more important things than having your asthetics validated.
Post # 14
I hear you. I always tell the bride she looks beautiful, so I was a little surprised I didn’t hear it much on my day (when I thought I looked good). I figured it was the one day people would shower me with compliments! But I just let it go. I bet if you always went around telling the bride she looked so happy on her wedding day, or so calm or so X, you’d be surprised not to hear that sentiment back much on your day either. What you often say is what you focus on hearing.
Post # 15
Interesting..thakns for your remarks. I did have alot of people tell me I looked calm….but I think only becaue my mom was acting like a total nut.
I always tell the bride I think she looks amazing..always. I just don’t get some people.
The designer of my dress recently chose to use a photo f me in my dress on their website, so obviously I wasn’t a trainwreck…..which I already knew I/We looked darn good, not sure why my husband or no one else could find it in themselves to acknoweldge it.
Post # 16
To be honest, my husband didn’t really gush either after our wedding or even during our wedding. He had so much family drama (on his side) and audio setup problems (before the wedding) that he didn’t really seem happy, which is completely understandable.
One thing that did make me feel better was what he said after wedding “I was so stressed all the way up to the ceremony, but then when I saw you [walking down the aisle], I remembered what I was there for (aka me) and that all of the other stuff didn’t even matter.” 🙂