(Closed) This is gonna be difficult

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m going to be a mom in April, and I have never changed a diaper, which at first seemed like the most ridiculous thing ever, but honestly? If my baby’s diaper falling off a few times is the worst that happens, then I say I’ve done damn well.

So you’ve never planned a wedding. If you don’t want to, you can hire a wedding planner, but they can get expensive. In your case I’d let your aunt help and let the little things go (like if the diaper falls off a few times…the baby is still alive and ok)

The next thing to know is, as the bride, you don’t have to worry about a bridal shower or bach party. Someone throws it for you if they are nice enough to offer, and you relax. It’s all about you.

This early in the game maybe start making a Pintrest board of all the things you like–colors, dresses, themes, flowers, blah blah blah. I would also start looking at photographers and venues as both book fast.

But know at the end of the day you will be married to the man you love. Keep it simple to reduce your stress πŸ™‚

Post # 4
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I suggest starting with a budget and a rough head count. Then search online for budget tools that will let you enter your budget and give you a breakdown of what to spend where. You can use that as a guide when planning each aspect. 

Post # 5
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Lilycat:  No one really knows how to plan a wedding until they do it for themselves πŸ™‚

I have used a wedding planning binder (clicky) to help me out a long the way. Theknot also has a nice checklist too. I would really sit down with yout Fiance and determine the vision that you have for your wedding day. Pinterest can be a good tool, but it can be hard to sift through all of the seemingly good ideas.

Post # 6
2503 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Lilycat:  These bees are giving you great advice. πŸ™‚

Post # 7
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think you should start by figuring out how many people you want there.

Planning goes from easy (10 guests) to ridiculous (300+ guests).

If you don’t want a big wedding, don’t have one.

Things like this are as hard as you make them.

Once you figure out a rough idea of how many guests you want, take a look at venues. Price things out. Get quotes. Get realistic estimates.

You have some time to save, so figure out a budget and then figure out how much you need to save for it.

And remember… try not to sweat the small details. It’s over in a flash.

Most big venues need to be booked about a year in advance. If you want to order a wedding dress, get it at least 8 months in advance.

Buy a few bridal magazines. Most of them have breakdowns and timelines of when you need to do stuff. Join the Knot.

ETA: Would be nice if editing for a typo didn’t completely mess my post up.. gah!

Post # 8
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lilycat:  Well you don’t plan your own shower or bachelorette so there’s 2 less things you have to worry about.

I’d start dress shopping about 12 months out but really you can go whenever you’d like. Jus tleave yourself 9 months or so to make sure it comes in on time and you can get alterations.

Definitely sit down first and establish a budget and a tentative guest list before you dive into planning.  These will dictate your venue, etc. Once you’ve got the venue and date set you can find the other vendors.  It’s a lot, but just break it into little pieces and you’ll be just fine. Definitely reach out to your aunt to help!

Post # 10
2945 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You feel like 99.9% of brides.

Take one piece at a time.   Date, place, and guest list are the only things that need to be done at over a year out.  Then everything eles. 

Don’t worry about the “when something has to be done” as that is not a real thing.  Grab a checklist, and cross out things you don’t want to do for your wedding.  With a dark black marker so you never have to see them again.  It felt really good to do that to the first checklist I was using with everything that said “Videographer.”  I knew I didn’t want one, so I got rid of it all.  10 things off my checklist, and I didn’t lift a finger!

Everything else I put my own date in for when I expected to have it done by.   

You will be fine.  πŸ™‚

Post # 14
5064 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Lilycat:  hi, 

I just wanted to say welcome to the hive. 

I’m getting married in April & I’ve found my fellow bees to be a great source of support & advice. 

Have fun & happy planning. 


Post # 15
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

step one: budget.
step two: guest list.
step three: choose a venue. 

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