Post # 16
arosebyanyothername : This!
With the weather cooling down, I hear him snoring less. But honestly, when he’s having one of those nights, separate bedrooms are our only salvation. Even then, sometimes I can hear him snoring from the other room, with each of the doors closed, and a fan on in his room…. but it’s faint enough I can usually force myself to sleep.
I don’t understand how they don’t wake themselves up. Really, honestly, how do they sleep through it? It’s soooooo loud.
Post # 17
I very much agree with the sleep apnea and getting a c-pap machine. It is not necessarily comfortable for the person who has to get used to wearing it, but it will improve HIS sleep as well as yours. Constant, loud snoring is common, but not a good thing at all. It is bad for his health (beyond you planning his death and all).
Post # 18
- Wedding: October 2017 - Sauk Valley Resort
I feel you! Fiance has a deviated septum and snores horrifically a lot of nights. Since his problem isn’t sleep apnea (he’s had a sleep study, he’s fine), the breathe right strips help some. Also, if it gets really bad, if I roll over violently enough, it’ll wake him enough to reposition himself and he’ll usually stop. Or nudging him a few times will sometimes do the trick. Occasionally, if he’s really knocked out, I’ll just roll him over myself.
Post # 19
dodobee : My Fi snores on occasion. I am a deep sleeper so he might do it more than I realize. I find that he snores mostly when he is really tired. So I am actually able to kick him a little and that usually stops the snoring for a bit till I can get to sleep.
Post # 20
pearleaf : me too – spend a fortune on ear plugs and nasal strips but only way I get any sleep!
Post # 21
I should also mention when I told DH’s doctor that I’d just been rolling him on his side to make him stop snoring, he stopped because not as much air gets through- it didn’t actually fix anything and could have made issues worse.
Post # 22
Take me seriously when I say CPAP saved my marriage.
My husband did not even know he wasn’t getting a good night’s sleep until literally the first night he slept with his CPAP. The next morning he bounced out of bed before the alarm and was a new man. Five years later, he never, ever sleeps without it, and I’m not five years into my jail sentence for his murder. Schedule him a visit with a sleep specialist ASAP.
Post # 23
I thank you all so much! I never, ever usually feel that type of rage directed at my husband, particularly when he’s unconscious. I remember the overwhelming protectiveness I felt when he was unconscious in a hospital bed but the last three night’s have been an eye-opener.
He NEVER usually snores! Which is why the last couple of night’s have been a shock, the DR recently put him on antihistamines because he was suffering an allergic reaction to something they dressed him with after his surgery awhile ago…i think they are making him snore. I will mention apnea to the DR when we see him again soon though. I haven’t been keen to wake him because he needs to heal, but I’ve been suffering right along side him during the night!
One of the post’s mentioned ear plugs, it never ever occured to my sleep deprived brain because I’ve never used them! Then I remembered all the construction we have going on so I went looking through all the dust and debris and lo! I found a packet of the little orange one’s and they worked! It felt weird, I slept right through DH’s alarm and his shower.
Thank you for the laughs and I really will mention the concern for a sleep disorder, because It may be starting in him and you guys have freaked me out 🙂
Post # 24
I will knee my husband in the back and make him roll over. IDGAF
Post # 25
HappySky7 : I thought I would ask, is it possible medications could make him snore? I feel likely these antihistamines are acting like knock-out drugs, I’ve actually yelled “shut up, shUT UP SHUT UP!!!” and he didn’t stir…it’s not like him. I totally understand if you’d rather not give me your advice as a professional without actually testing him in person but the timing seems right…
Otherwise I’m now freaked that this is the start of something way worse and he’s going to die mid-snore and I won’t know because I have ear-plugs in…
Post # 26
What has worked for us is if I go to bed first. Then I’m sleeping when he comes to bed and I’m not bothered.
Post # 27
He sleeps way too early, I can’t beat him! At 9-9:30 he’s already out and I’m still shuffling around making good-night tea, doing my skin routine, stretching before bed and reading…I’d have to start during dinner to catch up
Post # 28
- Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA
I feel your pain, but the way you described your situation is HILARIOUS!
Post # 29
dodobee : Fiance was just put on a CPAP maching on Friday. BEST sleep either of us have had in the almost 10 years we have slept together, even on his back.
Definitely check the symptoms of sleep apnea and see if he fits and take him to the doc to be tested.
Post # 30
Meds can definitely make them snore more. My ex would have bad allergy attacks and take Benadryl and I swear his snoring shook the house. My bf snores bad when he pushes himself too hard during the day after work or stays up too late into the day and when he takes anything that makes him sleep.
Ear plugs were my best friends.