Post # 1
This is my second wedding. I’m in my mid-30’s and we have a house full of things, meaning we don’t need much. Isn’t it a little odd to have a shower? Kind of like having a baby shower for the 2nd and 3rd child? Also, we’re having a courthouse wedding before the big wedding (FI is military) so isn’t it weird to have a B-party?? AFTER I’m already married?? Opinions please!
Post # 3
If someone wants to throw you a shower, then go, they are doing it because they want to do something special for you. The Bachelorette, eh, I think that is more about what you and your FH are comfortable with. If they two of you agree to it and are comfortable with it, then why not?
Post # 4
@AirForceWife78: It’s not silly! Do what you want.
However, since you have a house full of things you could have a theme gift shower instead of registering. I’ve been to showers where the suggested gifts fit into one category at one she was given lingerie, another bottles of wine and champagne, and another (totally person specific) were gifts for their furbabies 🙂
Post # 5
Go for it! It’s a great way to celebrate with your family/friends.
Post # 6
my Fiance is in the military and we are going with the courthouse option first and then a large reception/renewal next summer, but I think we are going to avoid the showers and the parties and all of that sort of thing becuase it does seem a bit like double dipping to me.
There will also be no bridesmaids or groomsmen at the renewal, but that being said I do know plenty of military couples who get marriend JOP and then have a full out wedding months later, not uncommon, I think it is whatever you and your family are most comfortable with. If your family wants to throw you a shower I woudln’t stop them, but maybe don’t expect it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I had a shower and bachelorette party, but then again, it’s my FI’s first marriage and I my friends who knew me the first time around are so glad that I’m done with the ex and in this relationship that they were plenty happy with attending and gifting and such (and planning, thanks MOH!).
Post # 8
i didnt have bridal shower or bachlorette party first time around so we are doing it this time. 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
Im having both this time around! my first Bachelorette party sucked! I had a small get together at my home cause i had an infant …this time around im going all out for a night on the town! and yes they are throwing me a shower, when i left my ex i literally took the clothes on my back, my kids clothes and toys and thats about it….everything my fiance and i have is mostly second hand mix match lol..i would love some new stuff that we can use together!
Post # 10
I agree, if someone is offering to throw those for you, I would totally accept. 🙂
That said, I would probably be more comfortable with a theme shower than a traditional shower, but you know your situation & your group of friends, so only you know what you need and what will/will not offend.