Post # 46
Honestly? I would also never wear a dress like that. I’m not a fan of lace and having anything that close to my neck makes me feel like I’m suffocating (even all my tshirts/sweaters have to be v-nevk). BUT!!! If you were looking for a romantic Edwardian throw back, then you hit the nail on the head. I think your dress is perfect for you based on your descriptions of who you are and what you were looking for. The only critique I can give is, while I love the lace part of the cap sleeve, I find the ruffle bit at the end of the sleeve a little distracting. Maybe because it breaks up the clean line?
Otherwise, it’s a beautiful dress. NOT MATRONLY! It may not be my taste but I definitely see why you would love it. I’m sorry to hear that your bridesmaid couldn’t see past her own interests and give you a more supportive answer.
Post # 47
@MissNoodles: I promise. My move is gonna take up a lot of time and effort and it will be a while before I can get the first fitting, but I’ll post photos as soon as the last button is hooked.
Awe, Thank you! That is so sweet of you to say. 🙂
However. I just had a thought. With the concern some of you have about the neckline being too “closed off”, what if I removed the silk chiffon from the front to make the neckline more of a Queen Anne/Portrait style? Also, to make it a little more daring, what if I took the line of the back (The keyhole, if you will) down a few inches? Thoughts?
Post # 48
I have always loved a deep back in a gown, so,yes, that would definitely be something to consider.
I like the illusion on the neck and back, but I’d like it more if it were truly sheer and not so gathered and full.
Post # 49
@bijou214: Thank you, dear! I appreciate your thoughts. Will you please look over my ideas in the post above and tell me what you think?
Post # 50
I understand you thoughts, completely, @smyley.
I’m thinking something along these lines, but I still like that gathered chiffon concept for the back.
Post # 51
When I hear the word matronly I think old fashion and out dated!
When I read your post this is the dress that popped in my head:
(please do not take offense if you or some you know wore a dress like this! It was the “It” dress back in the older days! I use it mearely as an examlpe!)
Then I copied your link to see what dress you were talking about!
I must say I was so suprised and stund that your friend would say that at all about hte dress you posted!
That dress is far from matronly / old fashioned!
To me it is a VERY HIGH FASHION WEDDING DRESS, those type you see on runways!
I love the dress you chose and think you will look stunning in it!
Post # 52
Well she did try to make your gown better. She thought it would be a better gown if you didn’t wear it. You wanted to know what would be better for you and she offered that advice (the dresses she showed you). You’re terribly hard to please. You can say thanks, but no thanks. If she dosn’t like the dress she’s not gonna be like do this here and do that there, because she dosen’t like the dress, period.
Post # 53
i love the dress you chose. i say go for it if you have the body for it. it would look terrible on me because of have a short neck =( but it is really breathtaking. you said you were having it made. i don’t know anything about you seamstress. my only concern is that the seamstress might not be able to get the exact detailng. but it sounds like you have an amazing seamstress and that’s the least of your worries.
your friend didn’t like the dress and after pressing her, she gave you her honest opinion. i guess don’t ask if you don’t want to hear honesty or at least be prepared that not everyone will like everything you choose. you just have to be okay with the fact that you can’t please everyone and since it’s your day, you do what makes you happy. i don’t think there’s a need to be so upset. (not sure if you are but you sound really pissed.)
when i went dress shopping, one of my bridesmaids insisted on me trying on very specific dresses that were more suited for her body. i knew it wouldn’t look good on me because i know my body. she kept on sending me pictures of a-lines. i know it’s the type of dress she likes because she has a tiny top and heavier bottom half. i’m bigger on top with broader shoulders but i have no hips or butt. when we went shopping, i tried on the dresses she chose and dresses i chose and she realized that dresses that look good on her did not necessarily look good on me.
i’m getting suggestions from all directions but i think my friends are really great about not taking things personally when i don’t go with their suggestions. i guess they realize it’s my day and i get to have what i what. i’m giving them free reign on their dresses because i’ve realized that i cannot control everything. i can’t believe i’ve become so easy going. it’s not even my personality.
i also try not to impose my opinion too much on my future sis in law. (she’s geting married in 9 days.)
Post # 54
@d_mari3: HAH! Thanks for the laugh. How very sweet of you. Yes, while I can respect those who fell in love with and chose such gowns for their big day, however long ago, I can say that this a more true depiction of old fashioned and matronly. I like your style, hun. 🙂 I will say, though, (coolest little story) one of my friends chose to have an ’80s themed wedding. It was a HUGE success. Everyone wore crazy ’80s fashions and day-glow colours… it was a riot. The bride and groom even decked themselves out in some pretty gobsmacking duds. It was a priceless day and in true standing with the bride’s and groom’s personality. I’m sure I’ll never attend another wedding quite like it.
I have to admit I’m pretty blessed to have a great seamstress to build my vision. My designer friend who is doing the gown design mashup is pretty outstanding, too. I don’t know what I’d do without them. Well, I do know what I’d do, but it would be a pretty expensive venture. And while KJ is pretty indulgent when it comes to my spending habits, I don’t think he would be very happy if I spent more on the gown than the entire elopement and celebration dinner party. 😉
At the moment of the post, I was a bit miffed, yes, but I was hardly pissed. I’ll have to curb my enthusiastic ranting from now on to keep you girls from running to my cause so. I have an extremely supportive set of friends around the world and I would hardly be upset with someone (at least as much as it has been interpreted here) for having an opinion. Some of the lovely ladies here have offered positive and gracious advice and it has hit home. I thank them all, and you, for your gracious way of stating your thoughts and feelings in a non-abrasive and couth manner.
With that being said, ladies, what do you think of the alterations I am considering? I’ll repost them here for your thoughts-
“I just had a thought. With the concern some of you have about the neckline being too “closed off”, what if I removed the silk chiffon from the front to make the neckline more of a Queen Anne/Portrait style? (Similar to the photo below) Also, to make it a little more daring, what if I took the line of the back (The keyhole, if you will) down a few inches?”