(Closed) This is normal…Right?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Definitely find that to be normal.  FI says the same things.  He just likes to have an idea of what’s going on and doesn’t mind hearing my ideas.  🙂

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Normal? right. Most men just don’t care so much about all the details.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance always says to just tell him where and when to show up and I can do the rest.  It really bothered me at first.  Still does sometimes because I am doing all the work.  On the other hand, his argument is that even if he has an opinion I am probably going to do what I want anyway.  He is probably right!  Haha. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yup. I had mine sit down with me as we listened to songs. It was easier that way.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Haha, it certainly was normal for us. Don’t read too much into it. =)

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yep! I had a list of songs for each category and we listened to the together and came to a joint decision on each.

Way easier that way!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@luvmyDwight: It is normal because alot of FI’s think the wedding is more for the bride…. Try not to take it personally

 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mr. Tattoo doesn’t care about the details. All he cares about the food and alcohol. I think it’s pretty normal. There are some guys that care about that stuff and want to be a part of it, but there are many more just want to know what time to show up.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

normal.. mine says the same thing..

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it’s normal, but I remember having a discussion on having him show me that he is more excited about the wedding.  He picked some tasks that were “his” – like getting his suit (and getting it pressed, etc), finding the officiant, and setting up the music (we did an ipod wedding).  I think he liked to be involved.  I also tried to include him on decisions – so, while I spent 10 hours looking at invitations, he had to spend a few minutes picking “this one or that one” but it made him feel invovled and it made me feel he cared about what was going on.

So, I guess I would say that if it bugs you, say something about it.  Tell him you’d like him to be more involved – that even if it’s not his thing, you’d like some effort on his part.  This is something you’d like to do together.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

hahah I was hoping I was getting that similar reaction because we still have two years to go…but it seems like it’s just normal throughout the whole process…. I forget that he hasn’t been dreaming of this day since he was 5 Kiss

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Totally normal. I was relieved on this one because Fiance never ever listens to love songs. His idea of a love song is Everlong by Foo Fighters. Yeah, the words “Gotta promise not to stop when I say when” are NOT going to be included in our first dance. But since he made it my decision, it will be Two is Better than One by Boys Like Girls featuring Taylor Swift…favorite band and favorite singer, and it’s the perfect song!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I feel all you bees. I had started to volen-told my Fiance. Its more of “we are picking our song tonight.” He usually comes up with some sort of input once we get into it.

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