(Closed) This is not fair!

posted 13 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d be super irritated if my family did that, too! Did you ask them to wear pink to the rehearsal or to the wedding? i’m confused. Did they even apologize for being late, I mean, c’mon that’s super rude! I think you need to call your mom and tell her flat out that she and your sisters need to be a little more responsive to you. And those people that you don’t know should get over it. They don’t know you so they probably wanted to show up for food and see all the other family that they don’t usually see, right? I mean why do you want to go to a wedding of people you don’t know?! Not to mention, your dad’s cousins’ ex wife? Kinda low on the totem pole if ya ask me

Sorry things are crazy right now! Sending you a hug and hopefully everything just goes smoothly on the day of, or you’re so oblivious of it all because you’re so enamored with your new husband!  

Post # 4
1652 posts
Bumble bee

Sorry.  It hurts when you feel like your own family is lethargic about something like your rehearal.  And yeah I was confused too, about the pink to the reharsal???    (If in fact you wanted them to wear something specific to the rehearsal, I would have to disagree with you there.)  If you haven’t expressed your hurt to them, maybe you should open up.  I really feel for you.  Hang in there.

And keep us posted.

Post # 6
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009


I hope everyone stops being so insensitive and start focusing on your needs.

Please keep us posted!!

Post # 7
3952 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hugs and more hugs!

That’s so strange them not wanting to wear a pink dress..and the late stuff.

I will NEVER understand how people who don’t really know you (your second or 3rd cousin or something), get offended or WHY THE HECK would they get offended by not being asked to attend a wedding???  It is (Will Ferrell quote here..) "Mind Bottling"!!!

Remember this too, something I’ve learned along the way, that people act wacky at both weddings and around funerals.  You will see the most BIZARRE behaviors ever.  Don’t sweat it..carry on with YOUR wedding.  It is YOUR AND FI’S DAY..not theirs ok?  It will go on and be lovely and happy and if the people causing trouble goof up or don’t attend or mess something up it is a reflection ONLY ON THEM.  Not you or Fiance.

Wishing you both peace and love and no stress.  Let these people have to deal with themselves.. 

Post # 8
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have to agree with bellenga, people can be very strange when it comes to life events like funeral and weddings. Like when I had the heart-breaking duty of arranging my daughter’s funeral – most of my family showed up for the memorial service thrown by my ex (held AFTER the one we arranged) but not to the one I arranged for Shawnee (my daughter). Now is that f*cked up or what?

You MUST concentrate on you and your fiance for this wedding. Do not let inconsiderate people (related or not) ruin your day. All eyes will be on the happy couple.

Post # 9
27 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

Isn’t it just amazing how such a happy event, such as a wedding, brings out the worst in others? And most especially your own family? I actually had a family member ask me to do something which I don’t believe in simply so she can attend my wedding. Now, fellow Bees, I ask you. Who is this wedding about? Her and her beliefs? NO WAY!

I totally feel for you Carmen2009. I understand what it’s like to have family who seems to care less about the most important (or at least one of the most important) day of your life and I understand how much it hurts. Just try to remember that your wedding isn’t about them, but about you and your FH. And remember, too, that the only thing that will matter is the two of you!

Big HUGS to you!

Post # 10
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d be pissed and steal their black dresses!

It’s not OK in my opinion for family members like the mom AND sisters (hellooo i guess pink is your color!) to wear black b/c it’s like they’re mourning!!!!

 I’d have a sit down face to face. Your sisters are being snotty brats and need to get over it for ONE freakin’ day that it isn’t about them. And your mom needs to know this is important, not something to just blow off. After all your wedding’s Saturday! 

Post # 11
14 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sometimes families can suck. Its your day, you planned it so just try your best to enjoy it all!

Post # 12
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

These are the vary reasons that no one, that is NO ONE is invited to my wedding. They can ruin a reception, could care less as that is for them anyway. Ruin away, but you will not ruin my wedding day.


I am sorry this happening to you. 

Make the most of it, know that once you are married you have an entire other family. I’d recommend a temporary separation from yours. They will eventually stop trying to ruin  your every good moment and want you back.

Don’t tell them where you are going on your honeymoon.

And wearing black dresses, well, that is is just so childish I hope they realize they are being ridiculous.

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