Post # 1
He/we ordered the ring 3 weeks ago. When we placed the order, the lady said it would be here in 2 weeks. We’ve both called several times to try to get an update, but no clear cut answer is available. So I figured we’d just be ‘unofficially engaged’ a while, no biggie.
But now it’s bugging me. My parents already know when the ring was bought, along with his parents. They’ve leaked the information to some people. We’ve even received some congratulations at work on the engagement, even though it hasn’t happened yet. We’ve gone to look at venues and put a hold on one. I even tried on some dresses. And now I’m frustrated that I have to keep quiet about the planning etc. since we haven’t made the announcement, and can’t until the ring comes, which is unknown.
I kind of feel like I’m being robbed of engagement announcement where I get to flash the ring with a big smile and react to people’s surprise. It feels anti-climactic, albeit practical, for it to go the way it’s going. I dunno. It’s probably from watching too many rom-coms. I’m happy for it to be so close, but the days are craaaawwwwling by. Plus I’m PMSing now which is making it so much more difficult. In my head I’ve blamed the jewelry store for delaying the whole thing, but I know I should just calm down and be patient. I’ve tried to vent to a couple people who know when the ring was ordered, but they just thought I was being ridiculous for being worked up over waiting one or two additional weeks. I’ve also heard advice that we should have gone to a different shop, which is too little too late. It’s ordered and on it’s way. And p.s. I love it.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all to be upset that the ring is taking longer than anticipated! I would be!
I would be a little upset about people leaking the information about your engagement before it’s official though, I understand what you mean about feeling like you’re missing out on something. Although, I do think once you get the ring (and post lots of pics on WB for us!!) you should have your big announcement, even if some people already know.
I can’t wait to see your “I’m engaged” post, and hopefully things move quickly for you!! 🙂
Post # 4
I bet he worked out something with the ring shop to pretend like it hasn’t come and he really has it and wants to surprise you…don’t count that out.
I’m basically in the same boat as you. we picked it out together– told our parents– its been leaked a bit– only I know he got the ring 2 months ago…i saw it…just waiting for it to appear so I can flash the giant we’re engaged smile…don’t want everyone to be like “yeah…we know”
Post # 5
@snobunny: OMG he got your ring two MONTHS ago?! That’s so long to wait! And that’s soo long to hope people keep it on the downlow. I’m glad to hear from someone going through a similar thing.
@MissBoPeep: Thanks 🙂 I was hoping for a reply like yours to make the day feel a little better. I’ll take your advice and still do the official announcement even though some people already know, thanks to some over-excited family members. And I will make sure to post the end of this engagement saga, complete with ring pics!
Post # 6
I feel you. We are unofficially engaged. We basically are, except for the ring and him asking the “official” question. We already have taken pre-cana classes, filed for a fiance visa, etc. I had to tell my mom because some visa paperwork would be arriving at her address, but I explicitly told her NOT to tell a soul. But she has a big mouth, so she probably did. Luckily, no one else has said anything to me about it.
I agree it is soooooo frustrating not to have that ring to make it official. I don’t want to tell anyone else yet bc I know the first comment is going to be “well, how did he ask? let’s see the ring!”. We have looked at a few rings and I think he will probably buy any day now, but we also might have something designed which could take forever. So I just keep waiting and it is frustrating! Hopefully in the next month it will be official, though! I hope yours becomes official asap too!
Post # 7
I hate the leakers! Everyone loves to leak information though…. It seems like I tell one friend that we went ring shopping and suddenly EVERYONE knew we were getting engaged! I’m frustrated! And now everyone keeps asking why it’s not here yet…
Post # 8
If you want to, you can be officially engaged without the ring. There’s no law that says you must have a ring.
Just sayin’. If you want to be official, go for it; you’ll wear the ring when it arrives.
Anyway, I feel for you. The anticipation has got to be killer!
Post # 9
ugh…i know. I showed up to my boyfriend’s parent’s house for their extended family thanksgiving and it was obvious she had told everyone. Everyone just stared at me and his mom kept prodding.
She even asked me in a very disapproving way why I didn’t bring the ring to show her! it’s not mine yet! could you imagine? Check out my ring…he hasn’t proposed but I knew where he was hiding it and wanted to show you….ha!
Post # 10
uh oh…you just gave me validation that I AM waiting a long time…this might create a monster…but I’ve made a vow to myself and to him that I wont say anything more ever again because I know he has the ring and I know it’s coming and in the past I’ve been a fianczilla!