(Closed) This is not my reception…

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well, I think even if most people don’t dance you can still do music. That way if you or anyone else feels like it, they/you can dance.

And it will also help create a nice atmosphere for those that do want to just talk.

And I’m not totally opposed to you do something that your mom may not neccesarily go for…..

I’ve heard of receptions that assigned each table a song and when that song played they were encouraged/compelled that table to dance!

This went over really well at brunch receptions where dancing isn’t as much as evening receptions.

I think you and your Fiance should agree on how ya’ll want ya’lls day and do that! It’s a great way for you two to establish being unified and supporting whats on the others heart =)

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@cyneswith: That sounds absurd. Sure a reception is for talking but there are several key things that are usually a part of them

  • Food
  • Music
  • Dancing
  • ….and conversation

I’ve never seen a reception without three out of the four. That’s what people usually go for.  I am so sorry that your mom is being unreasonable. Is there a reason she believes this? When was the last time she went to a wedding out of curiousity?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You could show a slide-show of you both as children, pics of you both as your relationship progressed. People will give speeches about the two of you…it will be a lot like a “regular” reception just with out the drinks and dancing!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Could you have fun cards at the tables? Maybe a trivial pursuit or other trivia questions about you as a couple and growing up? Or just games in general?

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are ya’ll still doing the cake cutting, bouquet and garter toss? First dance with your husband? It seems a shame to cut your own reception short when you can still enjoy “traditions” that other people will enjoy as well.

What about reception “I Spy” or Mad Libs? I’ve been to a wedding before that didn’t have dancing, and it wasn’t bad at all.

Why can’t you have alcohol? Are your parents paying for the wedding?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Your situation sounds very strange and awkward. What about canceling the reception all together? Or cutting it down severely? Then you could go out with friends afterwards and actually have fun!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

sounds to me you need to take matters into your hands and make a reception that you and your Fiance want to have not what other think! Your post is so sad…nothing is hapy…..why allow this to continue? Fight for what you want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

What about including little “props” that might spark people to talk?

I was at a wedding that had Q & A about the couple on the tables

Where did the couple meet?

What are their middle names?

You can easily add this into the decor (or have someone else do it since you don’t want to).

Also, hand out fortune cookies…seriously. We were just an an italian wedding with fortune cookies (WTF) and they kept people talking for at least an hour. Silly, but worked.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

So the other guests at the wedding NEVER dance?  Who cares its your wedding so if you enjoy dancing then by all means you should dance and get your wedding party to dance too and trust me the guests will join in too!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Do it. I’m all for calling the bluff of unreasonable people, and your mother is being unreasonable. If she wants a reception with no alcohol, no dancing, and no games, then give her the bare minimum and go do your own thing. At this point it’s hardly “your” reception any more, so just do what you need to do to make her happy and then go have fun with the people who really want to celebrate your wedding.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance and I aren’t having dancing, drinks or anything but its more because we are having an early wedding.. we are also doing “I Spy” to get the guests up and moving. We will probably include more “games” but not sure right now. I’m sorry you are having such a hard time! 🙁

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