- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Ok, I just want to get some feedback on a random issue I’m having with my grandma.
So Long Story Short: I’ve been living out of state/abroad for the last 5 years. In May, I came back for the summer, and ultimately DH and I decided to stay in Michigan for the year. I now live about 25-30 minutes away from my grandparents. My mom and my two little siblings (10 and 12) also live there currently, so I’m over there about once a week and sometimes more.
For those of you who don’t know, DH is currently back working in Afghanistan until Dec 18 (Just got the arrival date today! YAAAAAY!) It’s been a challenging few months since he’s been gone, but I’m surviving. I go to the gym nearly every day, I work from home, am trying to find a part time seasonal retail job for extra cash, I see friends, have a cat, etc.
My grandma is amazing, and is very active in her community and church. Her and my grandpa invite me to stuff all the time, and I try to make a good faith effort to go to stuff that is clearly important to them or a “big deal.” (I’m not a member of their church, but I’m loosely Christian I guess). I’d say overall I’m a pretty awesome granddaughter!
Here’s the thing: My grandma is constantly inviting me to do stay the night at their house! Most recently, they invited me to some concert at their church a few weeks from now on a Friday. Ok, I can do that. (2 Church things 2 weekends in a row, btw) But then my grandma says “And just bring your stuff and stay all night with us.”
No, I don’t want to spend the night! I’m 27, have my own apartment with my own bed. I have a hard enough time sleeping without DH, I don’t want to sleep in a strange bed. And when my mom has the kids, the house is pretty full! Don’t get me wrong, I’ll stay there if my mom needs me to get the kids on the bus or something specific, but generally no, I don’t want to sleep somewhere other than *my* bed for fun. I said no, but she will probably ask me several more times, and she seems surprise and disappointed whenever I turn down such an invitation.
Am I missing something? Or am I being callous? Do other adults who live nearby their family spend the night there? I just don’t understand the logic. It’s not normal, is it? It’s not a huge problem, but I wanted some opinions or suggestions on the matter because it’s driving me a bit bonkers.