(Closed) This is probably a stupid worry..

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is it okay to ask for a smaller sized center stone if it comes in and I feel it's too big?
    No, absolutely not; keep what he gave you and be grateful that he was willing to get 1 carat. : (22 votes)
    27 %
    Yes, it's fine...as long as it really doesn't bother him. : (51 votes)
    61 %
    Yes! You should always be happy, no matter what. : (7 votes)
    8 %
    Other...here's why (explain please.) : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think 1 carat is big, but not enormous, try it for a while. If you don’t wear rings a lot it might feel big but you’ll probably get used to it. If after a bit it still really bothers you then you might want to do something about it. I think you need to be comfortable in your ring, IMO it becomes a part of you. 🙂

    Post # 4
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s fine to talk to him if you’re unhappy with the ring, but don’t rush to judgment. If I were you, I’d wear it for a week or two and see if you get used to it. I really never wear rings, so I was super concerned that my engagement ring would be huge and uncomfortable (it’s a 5mm pearl, which objectively is not that big, but I was worried anyhow!). It did take some time to get used to it — not because it was really too big, but just because it was new and unusual for me to wear something like that.

    So when you get it, keep an open mind, give it a shot and see where you are after a week or so. If you’re still really unhappy then, see about switching to the smaller stone.

    Post # 5
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    You are probably over-thinking this one and unnecessarily stressing yourself out. Wait until it comes in, wear it for a month, and then evaluate how you feel. You may be surprised.

    Post # 6
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Definitely talk to him and make sure he’s fully open to it. I am pretty sure MCO has a re-stocking fee so there will be a bit of work to exchange the ring/stone.

    One thing to keep in mind is that many women experience “diamond/stone shrinkage”  after they get their ring – it looks big at the start, but after a week or two, it can seem a lot smaller. Just something to keep in mind.

    Post # 7
    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You say that most people dream of a 1 carat. I don’t mean to be rude because I own a 1.5 carat moissanite myself (me e-ring will be a diamond though), but its not like cost wise a 1 carat moissanite is much different from a .5 carat or 2 carat moissanite. If the size of the stone does not feel comfortable to you, I am not sure why you listened to others in the first place!

    Post # 8
    5215 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I think you need to be comfortable and want to wear it, so if that means going smaller, than go for it!

    I also think you should wear it around for a while as if you are not used to wearing jewelery, it can seem huge at first but seem pretty “right” after a while. I also believe you can still achieve a dainty look with 1ct on a 5.5. A halo will add more finger coverage though. I still think you will be very surprised how used to it you get and how quickly you actually find it the right size for you.

    I am a 5.25-5.5 who did not wear rings before on a regular basis, then I rapidly found out a 6×4, then a 7mm sapphire seemed a bit small on my hand looking at overall effect and everyday! I went to a 8mm sapphire, and now a 8mm moissanite and to me it just looks “just right” on me, I do not want smaller or bigger (I tried that too!) as neither direction looked right, felt right, or worked right with my lifestyle.

    However, I do know people who did go other way and downsized by choice as they felt more comfortable going smaller than what they had.

    Post # 9
    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Personally, when I tried on rings, I found 1 carat to be too big on my size 5.5 finger. But that’s personal preference. I think you should give yourself time to get used to the ring once you have it. You might love it, or at least adjust to it with time.

    Post # 10
    1866 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think you’ll be fine.  Have you ever heard of DSS? (Diamond shrinkage syndrome).  I’m not joking here….after you wear your e-ring for a while, you just get used to the size and even if you thought it looked huge in the beginning, you’ll just get used to it. 🙂

    Post # 11
    4714 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    @AshleyR83:  OMG Ashley I knew I had a syndrome my hubby thought I was crazy!!! Hence me saving for my halo lol

    Post # 12
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    This is a 1 carat round moissy on my 6.75 finger. I think the size is perfect for me, but it’d look bigger on you. Maybe the compairason will help…

    Post # 13
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    You are probably every guy’s dream.. A girl who DOESN’T want a big diamond!

    Post # 14
    650 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    That is not a stupid worry! Everyone is different. You are the one that has to wear it everyday!

    I was the same way with cathedral settings. I kept being pushed to get a cathedral setting and I couldnt stand how high up it sat! I am too hard on my hands and rings to have something that high up.

    You just have to voice what you need and dont worry what anyone says!

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