Post # 1
I can’t be the only bride-to-be out there that as SOON as I got my ring…nothing I had planned previously or thought of previously or am seeing currently is to my taste. Seriously–nothing. Most everything on my pinterest or theknot account is stuff I can “deal” with. I want to attribute it to the fact that I don’t really care what the wedding looks like as long as he’s at the end of the aisle… But I really can’t find anything I like.
Anybody else like that?
Post # 3
For me it was just a matter of seeing 1 think that inspired the whole thing (mine was a pinwheel made with red and turquoise patterened paper)
Post # 4
I can’t say I don’t like anything, but a huge percentage of what’s out there is not to my taste. I’m having to compromse on so many things because the ideal in my head simply doesn’t exist. But I am finding things I like – I just had to learn search keywords and less-known resources.
How would you describe your style? I’ve done some serious hunting, and now know a lot of the nooks and crannies out there, and if I know of any resources that will help, I’ll send them along.
Post # 5
ETA: I’m an idiot and misunderstood the OP!
Post # 6
Everything I hated was affordable and everything I loved (few and far between) was out of budget. I did end up having a beautiful wedding, but not the one I’d have had if I had my ideal budget. A lot of ideas and wedding planning insprations can be “typical” – you just have to keep looking until you find what catches you.
Post # 7
I found there was a difference between something that I thought was pretty and something that I wanted for our wedding. Grasping this distinction was freeing because I can admire things without adding a million DIYs to the to-do list or being disappointed we can’t afford them.
Post # 8
@ProfessorGirl: I really want an informal wedding… my FH wants light blue and black, which I’m good with (as they’re both of our favorite colors) but I really can’t find anything that I’m happy with beyond that.
And thanks everybody else for the advice. My father was trying to tell me it meant I didn’t want to marry him–which I knew to be false–but I still feel relieved to hear it confirmed!
Post # 9
ME!! I didn’t like ANYTHING at David’s Bridal..one bridesmaid was actually mad about it because she had been in 5 weddings (this year!!) and every dress was from there…I didn’t want a white dress, satin, rhinestones, sparkly things, I didn’t get teary eyed over centerpieces and vows and lighting and flower girl dresses….I just wanted me, him, and my kid. And turquoise. And lace. And vintage.
finally I just started diying every single thing so it would be exactly what I want. It doesn’t help when family and friends tell you that “you have to have this, everyone does this, you can’t do that”…you’ll get it together!! It took me MONTHS to realize I was in charge of the situation…and now I’m having my messy tulle lacey crazy dress on the beach with no attendants!!! AHHHHH!!
Post # 10
@Future.McGuffee: I somewhat agree….but I’m taking at as a good thing! I can come on here, I see lots of rings and dresses and venues and cakes and flowers….that I look at and think “oh, that is nice for them, I bet they will really like that” but I have had no ring envy, no dress regret, no desire to change my whole plan (well, I DID change my RSVPs but that was something I hadn’t put any thought into at all before I saw the idea I loved on here!). So I’ve done things I like, but no….I don’t feel a lot of “wow” that is just so great I have to have it or I’m so excited to do that now.
Post # 11
you are not the only one, I realized after my man proposed that I actaully don’t like anything traditionally wedding related. (DJs, catered meals, large groups of people, fancy dresses, and formal place settings are all on my LEAST favorite things ever list) So I am just doing my own thing.
I think I have said this before, but all you really NEED to get married is a Fiance, a couple of rings, and a piece of paper. (maybe a witness or two depending on the state) As long as all of those things are in your plan everything else is extra. Maybe your wedding is going to be a little out of the box or a little more creative than the others, thats totally fine, it will be your thing and inspiration magizines may or may not catch up with you later.
Post # 12
People recoil in horror when I tell them I don’t have colors.
You don’t need to do anything typical, and I’ve found that the people who try really hard to be unique are the ones with the most contrived themes. Just do what you like, and don’t care what other people think.
ETA: the worst aspect for me was the dress situation. People look very nice in their gowns, but I think that wedding dresses are really ugly. I’m spending $300 for a woman in china to knock off a white dress that kind of looks like a nightgown for the ceremony, then I’m going to find a “my style” sundress at anthro or something for the party 🙂
Post # 13
I was the type of gal that refused to plan, pin or save any ideas until I was actually engaged. I just didn’t like to window shop before he had actually popped the question.
I did however recently come across the book I prepared for my senior year of high school where we had to get married and have “children” (ie: a babydoll). The ideas in there are craaaaazy and I was all about saving money. Boy have times changed!?!
Post # 14
I couldn’t make a choice to save my life. I would pin things only to delete. I quickly realized the problem was that I just really didn’t care and this just wasn’t my thing.
Post # 15
@MrsElopement: <<< This is me, too!
Post # 16
@MalbecMe: haha sometimes I think I’m crazy for not being into it! We actually decided to elope and I must say I have had 0 stress or confusion with this option.