(Closed) This is so awkward . . .

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Its your ring! you will be wearing it forever so go ahead and tell the jeweller EXACTLY what you want, that way he will only have to do it once, if he still gets it wrong then maybe theres something wrong with the jeweller lol x

Post # 4
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s your ring, and your Fiance is payin good money for it. You are entitled to what you want. Email those pictures and instructions. As long as you aren’t being rude, I see no problem.

Post # 5
1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sure the jeweler would much rather have explicit instructions now than an unhappy customer later. Tell him what you want!

Post # 6
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Zephi:  Don’t be embarrassed.  You are hiring a jeweler to create a custom setting for you so you’re not being a control freak at all.  You are giving him information to help him understand what it is you want.  Assuming he’s a professional who wants to make you happy – he will welcome your input.  Its a waste of his time and yours to let him continue to create and present designs that aren’t what you want.

Post # 7
12063 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

ditto the previous posters.


I went to the store and picked my setting, I told the sales lady the specs that mattered to me about the diamond but left it to them to choose the actual stone.  I was very vocal and I’m glad I was, i adore my ring.  I know a lot of girls who don’t and I don’t envy them at all.  I don’t want to upgrade or change my ring, I love it as is.

Post # 8
7229 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Zephi:  I would mention that I didn’t want the poor jeweler to have to go back & forth with us while my Fiance acted as go-between while not giving much info. 🙂 Just make it clear you’re trying to help.

Post # 9
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

definately be explicit. We had to pay £350 to alter my ring after it came out wrong because of poor communication!

Post # 12
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That email seems perfectly fine to me! Go ahead. 🙂

Post # 13
1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I think your email sounds fine! Don’t worry about seeming controlling – it’ll be much worse for everyone if your guy has to keep going back and forth only changing one small thing each time because of vagueness. A lot of my friends work in arty/creative stuff so I can tell you that a specific customer is much more helpful than one who isn’t sure what they want (within reason of course). 


Anyway, good luck with your ring process! 

Post # 15
3248 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Zephi:  That is very polite! I don’t think any reasonable person could construe that as being rude at all. 


I say go ahead. My SO has even said the “you’re the one who’s going to be wearing it for the rest of your life” thing. . . when I emailed him 2 rings I love and then later worried to him that he should have more input. I imagine he’s taking those ideas and working with them somehow to make it work for us both, unless he really likes my choices. . . he’s being pretty secretive, and I don’t know for sure that he’s working on it at all. So yes, you have every right to be clear about what you want, particularly since your boyfriend is completely OK with it.


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