Post # 1
So yes, I’m still technically waiting but my SO has gone to the jeweler and is working on a custom ring for me. Partly because there are no existing designs that come in palladium and partly because we’re going with a Forever Brilliant Moissanite (for now until I can get my hands on Amora Gem).
We had talked about just a classic 6 prong Tiffany solitaire and I showed him images of the settings I like. He talks to the jeweler, jeweler creates video of what the design will look like, SO shows me, and I didn’t like it. It was a much more modern looking take on a Tiffany solitaire so I told SO what I thought, we went over more pictures, and he said he’d talk to the jeweler. All he said was that I didn’t like the cathedral setting. No forwarding of pictures or anything further than that. =/ I feel bad for the jeweler, like he’s going to keep trying to create a design based on (IMHO) a not very helpful description. SO and I talked about it again and he said he’d email the photos I sent him later and I offered to email them myself. He said to go for it because he wants me to be happy with the setting and it feels weird but I guess I’ll do it to save everybody a lot of potential irritation.
Here’s the awkwardness: What do I say in my email? I feel like I’ll be coming across as a control freak or something but I know that I’d be frustrated if I had to do something over and over again. Help!
Post # 3
Its your ring! you will be wearing it forever so go ahead and tell the jeweller EXACTLY what you want, that way he will only have to do it once, if he still gets it wrong then maybe theres something wrong with the jeweller lol x
Post # 4
It’s your ring, and your Fiance is payin good money for it. You are entitled to what you want. Email those pictures and instructions. As long as you aren’t being rude, I see no problem.
Post # 5
I’m sure the jeweler would much rather have explicit instructions now than an unhappy customer later. Tell him what you want!
Post # 6
@Zephi: Don’t be embarrassed. You are hiring a jeweler to create a custom setting for you so you’re not being a control freak at all. You are giving him information to help him understand what it is you want. Assuming he’s a professional who wants to make you happy – he will welcome your input. Its a waste of his time and yours to let him continue to create and present designs that aren’t what you want.
Post # 7
ditto the previous posters.
I went to the store and picked my setting, I told the sales lady the specs that mattered to me about the diamond but left it to them to choose the actual stone. I was very vocal and I’m glad I was, i adore my ring. I know a lot of girls who don’t and I don’t envy them at all. I don’t want to upgrade or change my ring, I love it as is.
Post # 8
@Zephi: I would mention that I didn’t want the poor jeweler to have to go back & forth with us while my Fiance acted as go-between while not giving much info. 🙂 Just make it clear you’re trying to help.
Post # 9
definately be explicit. We had to pay £350 to alter my ring after it came out wrong because of poor communication!
Post # 10
Is there some form of etiquette I should follow? I’m an American and don’t want to come across as rude to a New Zealand jeweller. This is what I have:
My name is Zephi and I’m Mr. Zephi’s girlfriend. I hope this isn’t too forward but he and I talked a bit about the ring design you sent and he had said he spoke to you on the phone about some changes. After talking with him a bit more, he gave me the ok to send some of the pictures I’ve shown him to you. They’re attached to this email (sorry for the poor quality, they are screenshots from my phone) and hope they can help. I look forward to hearing from you!
Post # 12
That email seems perfectly fine to me! Go ahead. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I think your email sounds fine! Don’t worry about seeming controlling – it’ll be much worse for everyone if your guy has to keep going back and forth only changing one small thing each time because of vagueness. A lot of my friends work in arty/creative stuff so I can tell you that a specific customer is much more helpful than one who isn’t sure what they want (within reason of course).
Anyway, good luck with your ring process!
Post # 14
Yay! I sent it! Now to await a response or a crazy person label. Or maybe both!
Post # 15
@Zephi: That is very polite! I don’t think any reasonable person could construe that as being rude at all.
I say go ahead. My SO has even said the “you’re the one who’s going to be wearing it for the rest of your life” thing. . . when I emailed him 2 rings I love and then later worried to him that he should have more input. I imagine he’s taking those ideas and working with them somehow to make it work for us both, unless he really likes my choices. . . he’s being pretty secretive, and I don’t know for sure that he’s working on it at all. So yes, you have every right to be clear about what you want, particularly since your boyfriend is completely OK with it.
Post # 16
I think the source of my worry is that I’m so take charge sometimes that I just go over other people. It tends to happen a lot in group work for my courses so I worry about doing it other times.