Post # 1
I’m using a fake account because really, this is embarassing.
On our wedding night, we may have moved a bit too fast. There was a bit of blood. There was a bit of pain.
After googling the issue, we found out it was a “torn frenulum”. At least that is what we figure it is.
We haven’t been able to be intimate since our wedding. It is SO SAD!!!!!
Has anyone’s FI/DH have this issue before?
I am so sad because I feel like it is my fault. I feel like we should be in marriage bliss right now enjoying our sex life but we cant!!!!
Post # 3
First of all, it is not your fault. Please don’t blame yourself for this. Accidents sometimes happen and it wasn’t your fault.
I’ve not heard of a torn frenulum before, but I Googled a bit and if that is indeed what has happened, it usually heals on its own. But if your husband is still having pain after a month, he should definitely see a doctor. If he’s like my husband, that means you will have to make the appointment and go with him to hold his hand. 🙂
Post # 4
@Neva: This is exactly it! He was even embarassed to google it!
I am going to make an appointment and go with him on Monday. It doesnt hurt just normally, but it hurts too much to be “together”.
Post # 5
Don’t feel bad at all! At least you didn’t break it, which is apparently possible (I shudder to think what that would feel like:) Anyway, have him take it real easy, heal completely and pick up where you left off. Maybe oral would be okay while he is healing? Ask Dr. or Dr. Google.
Post # 6
On the bright side, it’ll probably be really funny later in life. Hopefully?
For now, though, I agree with @PutABirdOnIt:. Maybe try oral. Gently.
Post # 7
sexual disfunctions are never fun – but just a road hump you guys will get over. i had a slight sexual disfuntion due to a biopsy i had prior to getting engaged – luckily i have an amazing man who worked through it with me.
Dont feel bad, its not your fault – as a woman i could not even begin to tell you how difficult this situation was for me, not being able to please my then boyfriend, i felt so insuffient and guilty but over the course of a few months we worked through it, i was still able to do it but we had to take things really really slowly.
Obviously this situation was different because it was me 🙁 not him…but just know that there are always way around it and there are ways to be intimate without all out doing it.
I would highly suggest seeing a doctor if the pain/blood continues – i would have never been able to diagnose myself. it was the strangest experience of my life