(Closed) This is so embarrassing

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
Member
1553 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

First of all, it is not your fault.  Please don’t blame yourself for this.  Accidents sometimes happen and it wasn’t your fault.

I’ve not heard of a torn frenulum before, but I Googled a bit and if that is indeed what has happened, it usually heals on its own.   But if your husband is still having pain after a month, he should definitely see a doctor.  If he’s like my husband, that means you will have to make the appointment and go with him to hold his hand.  🙂

Post # 5
Member
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Don’t feel bad at all!  At least you didn’t break it, which is apparently possible (I shudder to think what that would feel like:)  Anyway, have him take it real easy, heal completely and pick up where you left off.  Maybe oral would be okay while he is healing?  Ask Dr. or Dr. Google.

Post # 6
Member
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

On the bright side, it’ll probably be really funny later in life. Hopefully?

For now, though, I agree with @PutABirdOnIt:. Maybe try oral. Gently.

Post # 7
Member
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

sexual disfunctions are never fun – but just a road hump you guys will get over. i had a slight sexual disfuntion due to a biopsy i had prior to getting engaged – luckily i have an amazing man who worked through it with me.

Dont feel bad, its not your fault – as a woman i could not even begin to tell you how difficult this situation was for me, not being able to please my then boyfriend, i felt so insuffient and guilty but over the course of a few months we worked through it, i was still able to do it but we had to take things really really slowly.

Obviously this situation was different because it was me 🙁 not him…but just know that there are always way around it and there are ways to be intimate without all out doing it.

I would highly suggest seeing a doctor if the pain/blood continues – i would have never been able to diagnose myself. it was the strangest experience of my life

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