(Closed) this is so f***ing stressful!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I had to replan my entire wedding 44 days out from whatever was left over from the 5k original budget. So yeah. Stressed.


Post # 4
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can completely relate. I am now on summer break from college, and we do have 6 months till the wedding, but it’s still so stressful especially when you have a super small budget, and a HUGE family! We’re on a $5,000 budget and that’s it! My Fiance is the only one working right now because I’m busy with school, and even though our parents are going to help out SOME it’s not enough. I wish they would pay for the whole thing entirely since I thought that was the traditional thing to do, but who knows! Anyway, I feel for you and I’m so sorry you’re stressed. πŸ™ I don’t have any help either, I’m doing it all on my own, and no friends or family to lend a hand or find things out or anything. I’ll be glad once we get the big things out of the way, but until then it’s getting them done and the financial part figured out that is stressing me to the max. Just try and take a breath and try and stay positive. I know it’s hard to do that but I always say to myself that things will work themselves out and that everything will end up running smoothly. I wish you luck in accomplishing everything and hugs! I know I could use hugs a lot!!! πŸ™‚

Post # 7
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can completely relate. I felt like that before my wedding too and my fiance had finals right up until 3 days before the wedding so he couldn’t really do anything to help.

BUT somehow everything came together. On the day of I was still making place cards (actually, I ended up pawning that off on my Maid/Matron of Honor so that SHE could be stressed instead of me) and we pretty much had the DJ be the master of ceremonies and coordinate with the restaurant and photographer what time things happened. All kinds of crazy stressful scenarios…I’m sorry you’re in that phase right now!

My advice is to look forward to the honeymoon. It will be so relaxing and enjoyable. Also, whatever you still have left before the wedding day make a list of list of it and give it to your Maid/Matron of Honor or most helpful bridesmaid(s) to take care of so that you do your best to enjoy the day. I literally had a bridesmaid with a similar body shape to mine go try on and buy bathing suits for me on the day of the wedding (I had forgotten and we were going on a cruise the very next day!). Don’t do anything bridezilla but on the day of people will really step up and help you and you will be extremely thankful for it. Try to breath!

Post # 8
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I can relate.  We planned our wedding in six months while I was teaching classes and finishing my last year of law school while my fiance was studying for the Bar Exam and looking for work.  I’m Asian from LA, he’s Irish from Michigan, so we had lots of different cultural expectations.  It was hard trying to make everyone happy while still keeping the wedding in our budget and make it feel like “us.”  My little 1 bedroom apartment was like a hoarder house with wedding gifts stacked up and DIY projects all over the place.  I don’t think I paid attention in school for months because I was so busy with wedding stuff.

And it didn’t stop at the wedding!

We got married over my Spring Break and squeezed in a mini-moon that same week, flew to Michigan for a reception in his hometown 2 weeks after our wedding, AND moved to a new apartment 2 weeks before finals.  Oh, and I just graduated from law school and am now studying for the Bar Exam in July.  

The thing is, at the end of the day, its just worth it to be married.  Our wedding was beautiful, but its really its been living through all of this with my husband that is the best part.  I’ve never been so tired, but if that’s what it takes to be with my best friend, its all in a day’s work.  Good luck!  (And remember to take a timeout during your wedding day to just be with your hubby for a few minutes.  We sat in a bathroom together for 10 minutes before the ceremony and it was the best thing ever).

Post # 9
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Awe! I really think we’re in the same boat too πŸ™ πŸ™ and it seems like we’re dealing with the same B.S. as well =/ and the even weirder part, my FI’s parents are only chipping in $1500!!!! And I don’t understand that at all! They have LOADSSSSS of money! My Fiance makes a little more than minimum wage, so it’s not like we have money! we don’t even live out on our own yet! ugh. We want to move out but we have to save what we can for the wedding so we can’t move until afterwards. My mom who just got out of tons of credit card debt now has money to help us with, BUT, his parents still have more than we do, more than my mom does, so I kind of expected them to help out more. Not that I’m not thankful and greatful for them to be helping, I know that they will help us out and make sure that everything is paid for, but still, its kind of unerving ya know?

 And right now on our guest list we have about 200, I’m gonna go back over it though and eliminate a lot of people. We are getting ready to order save the dates and send them out so I do need to finalize the list which is really hard to do. I feel obligated to invite some people who are somewhat close to me who attend the church we are getting married in, but I know I HAVE to get rid of some and not worry about who gets mad and all of that. It’s OUR wedding and we should invite only who we want to be there, so that’s one of the biggest stresses Im dealing with. And even though my mom said she can help out, she hasnt made it clear as to what and how much she can pay, which is freaking wonderful. I need to know so I can make appointments with caterers and what not! ugh. And I wanted to hire a wedding planner to take care of all this, but they’re so outrageously expensive it just couldnt happen! So, Im doing it all on my own. And you’re welcome for the kind words! I can definitiely relate and just had to post to you, beccause its definitely not an easy thing to deal with. AT ALL!

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