Post # 1
I’m about to get married in 2 weeks and I just want to SCREAM. I am annoyed at everyone and everything. I feel like I hate my fiance…All he wants to do is spend time with me and I just want to be left alone.
I asked my sister to step down as a bridesmaid because she and I haven’t talked in almost 6 weeks and we’re very angry at each other and she “politely refused.” … wtf.
Nobody has helped me plan this wedding at all. I am not a social person so every part of this process has been overwhelming. I have a lot of resentment over the fact that nobody helped me and it’s all coming out.
I’m upset that I’m in a super SUPER expensive venue. My mom went to go check out the VERY affordable room and she immediatley turned her nose up at it. She asked if they had anything else and so they showed her a gorgeous SUPER EXPENSIVE room. So, when it came time to tell me about it (I was oversees but needed to pick a venue during this time frame) she was like “oh that cheap room was so disgusting. you NEED to do this one!” “whats the price?” “well, it’s double but that’s okay..” I was so upset because I was on a time crunch (because my fiance insisted on getting married ASAP even though I wanted to wait) I was so tired of looking at wedding venues I just did it, especially because it was her showing interest in my wedding which she hadn’t done. Fast forward to seeing the venue in person, after contracts and deposits… the cheap “ugly” room wasn’t ugly at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In fact, both FI and I prefered it. It would’ve saved me 4000.00!!!!!!!!!!!!!
People on my fiance’s side are upset they weren’t invited! I told him to give me a list of all the people to invite and that I wasn’t going to go searching or even THINK about his side of the family because I was too overwhelmed with my massive list of things to do (aka, I was just going to take the list for what it was and just send whatever was on it.) Well, I guess he gave me half a list, totally excluding his step mom’s side of the family…. NOT MY FAULT….. but I know they all think it is because I’m the bride and it’s my duty to make sure everything is perfect!! He told me “No I told you to invite them” until I showed him the list and he was like “oh…. My fault.”
** Just to say — nobody on his side was coming even if they got invited as they live thousands of miles away… they just wanted an invite (which I understand.) I also, about 6 months before, asked his step mom if anyone planned to come from her side and she said no. And I said, okay, because then I’m going with a certain venue (which is actually very small)
Thanks for reading… if you did.. Not sure why.. JUST NEEDED TO RANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyone else want to scream at everyone in the weeks prior to their wedding?
Post # 3
Oh sweetie. It’s totally overwhleming I know. I started bawling in the mall yesterday when I couldn’t return something at the store (I wasn’t really upset about that- it was just the stress of everything building up).
Are you and your FI totally paying for the wedding yourselves? I know we are and because of that, any snobby opinion my mom has I’ve thrown out the window. She hates my FI and a few weeks before the wedding is just now trying to get involved and change everything to be up to her standards (she’s very concerned about what other people think) even though she’s not offering a dime to help. Is there any way she can help balance the extra cost since SHE was the one who insisted on it? Or is there any way you can change it if you prefer that room? (Money or not, if you think it’s prettier then I would try to go for it).
None of my BM’s have really helped either. I know I’m supposed to “delegate” or whatever but I really don’t know what to do. It does get very overwhelming, but I promise it’ll all be over soon and you will look beautiful on your wedding day and be happy. It’s the happiest DAY of your life- and the most miserable months leading up to it. I know my FI and I’s relationship has definitely been more tense the past month because of all the stress.
Can you tell your FI’s family that HE was the one who decided who to invite, and have him explain it to them? It might help take some of the stress off you. I know it’s not a good feeling to leave people out (I’ve had people come up to me and tell me they’re “hurt” they’re not invited) but the thing is people need to get over themselves and realize it’s just not possible to invite everyone- family or not.
Post # 4
Yep! Two weeks before, especially at the one week count down, I was feeling the same exact way. I even started hating my FI and I NEVER EVER felt that way about him before hand. It’s easier said than done, but try to just take a breath when you can. Delegate as much as you possibly can and remember that even if everything isn’t absolutely perfect it’s the day you’re marrying the love of your life, and that’s all that really matters, right? Big hugs to you and good luck!!
Post # 5
((Hugs)) Vent here all you want anytime you want. Your FI needs to man up and tell his stepmom that it was his oversight that led to no invitations. Also, I know you know that you don’t actually hate him, but it’s really hard to get over that sensation if he’s getting in your personal space when you need alone time. Can you afford a spa day or even just an hour long massage? I know it’s only 2 weeks away with things left to do, but you seriously sound like you need to step away for even just a few hours and leave the wedding behind for some recharging time.
Good luck, honey. The upside is that it’s all finished in 2 weeks!