(Closed) This is supposed to be the happiest day of my life?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Oh sweetie. It’s totally overwhleming I know. I started bawling in the mall yesterday when I couldn’t return something at the store (I wasn’t really upset about that- it was just the stress of everything building up).

Are you and your FI totally paying for the wedding yourselves? I know we are and because of that, any snobby opinion my mom has I’ve thrown out the window. She hates my FI and a few weeks before the wedding is just now trying to get involved and change everything to be up to her standards (she’s very concerned about what other people think) even though she’s not offering a dime to help. Is there any way she can help balance the extra cost since SHE was the one who insisted on it? Or is there any way you can change it if you prefer that room? (Money or not, if you think it’s prettier then I would try to go for it).

None of my BM’s have really helped either. I know I’m supposed to “delegate” or whatever but I really don’t know what to do. It does get very overwhelming, but I promise it’ll all be over soon and you will look beautiful on your wedding day and be happy. It’s the happiest DAY of your life- and the most miserable months leading up to it. I know my FI and I’s relationship has definitely been more tense the past month because of all the stress.

Can you tell your FI’s family that HE was the one who decided who to invite, and have him explain it to them? It might help take some of the stress off you. I know it’s not a good feeling to leave people out (I’ve had people come up to me and tell me they’re “hurt” they’re not invited) but the thing is people need to get over themselves and realize it’s just not possible to invite everyone- family or not.

Post # 4
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663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yep! Two weeks before, especially at the one week count down, I was feeling the same exact way. I even started hating my FI and I NEVER EVER felt that way about him before hand. It’s easier said than done, but try to just take a breath when you can. Delegate as much as you possibly can and remember that even if everything isn’t absolutely perfect it’s the day you’re marrying the love of your life, and that’s all that really matters, right? Big hugs to you and good luck!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

((Hugs)) Vent here all you want anytime you want. Your FI needs to man up and tell his stepmom that it was his oversight that led to no invitations. Also, I know you know that you don’t actually hate him, but it’s really hard to get over that sensation if he’s getting in your personal space when you need alone time. Can you afford a spa day or even just an hour long massage? I know it’s only 2 weeks away with things left to do, but you seriously sound like you need to step away for even just a few hours and leave the wedding behind for some recharging time. 

Good luck, honey. The upside is that it’s all finished in 2 weeks!

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