(Closed) This is the LAST straw…

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
4056 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would talk, calmly :), with your supervisor and ask why you were passed over. I would explain  that you’ve been there two years, were promised state after 6 months, and yet others are getting that while you are not. Before quitting, see what’s our supervisor says. Then decided to leave if you don’t like it 

Post # 6
4056 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  if he does that, I would go to the person who makes the decision. 

Or if you really don’t like this job and this is a good push to find something better, take it 🙂

Post # 9
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’d walk.

ETA: Saw you’re 59 days from wedding. I’d stick it out til the wedding passes, all the while job hunting, and I’d leave the week after the wedding, or leave for another job if offered before the wedding.

Post # 10
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Calm down first and THEN go and speak with a supervisor. 

If you are going to leave, I would wait until after your wedding… and then give your two weeks after you have found another position elsewhere.

Post # 12
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Stay calm… and carry on.

Get thru the Wedding FIRST… before you make any radical career moves.

Easier to make the change AFTER the Wedding is over

Lol, I had a sucky job before I got married the first time (circa 1980) … stuck it out… went away got married, loved my Honeymoon and the no stress… came back to work on a Monday, and resigned by Friday.  Of course all the folks in the office thought it was because I was going home to get pregnant and be a Stay-At-Home Mom now that I was married.  (Who cares what they thought… trust me they’ll think the same of you).  IF you really want to quit that is when to do it AFTER the Wedding not before (lol, you might otherwise miss out on an Office Shower and a BONUS Cash Gift from your Company / Boss)

But in reality, if you come back from being married and have a decided to move on… it can be a great time to make the break.

*NOTE – When I left the crappy company, I had a strong lead on a job… not just a hunch… but something that was very concrete.  As I had been unsatisfied there for awhile… but didn’t leave due to the impending Wedding etc (needed that paid vacation time for my Honeymoon).  Anyhow, I quit the crappy job on Friday, had a week off, and began at the new place with a HUGE raise the next Monday.  It was a GREAT Job one I kept for several years.

Otherwise… like another Bee has said, you need to be altogether and calm if you plan to talk to someone on WHY you haven’t been declared “State” as of yet given your Qualifications and the time you’ve been on the job.

PS… The person who dropped this tid-bit in your ear is a probably a sh!t-disturber / office gossip … they may well know you’ll be VISIBLY upset… and that is what they want you to have a meltdown (their petty life enjoys such juicy stuff).

DON’T give them that benefit.  Take this all in and deal with it as a grown up PROFESSIONAL calmly and with a plan to the future !!  (Be that staying or leaving… get your ducks in a row ahead of time)

Hope this helps,


Post # 13
1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Can you file a grievance? It may be different, but my brother used to work for UPS and for the holidays, if you wanted a holiday for the pay and had seniority but someone with less time working got those hours…you could file and get double your pay rate for that day. I know it’s because of the union he was a part of, but I don’t know the regulations at your job.

It’s not exactly the same, but there’s got to be some sort of way to let it be known YOU have more seniority and YOU deserved it based on seniority.

Post # 15
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hiroshymatetrastar:  Are there clear guidelines somewhere about how to get state pay? Is it seniority based or performance based? If it is performance based it may be harder to make a case that you should get it than if it is seniority based because you have no way of knowing how the other people’s performance is ranked/perceived. If there are guidelines, then if you feel that you meet them it should be very easy for you to present a case as to why you should get the state benefits.

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