(Closed) this is tricky -FI proposed while not technically divorced. Anyone else same?

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

So is he divorced now?

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

its just the proposal. The wedding is not for another year plus. Do you not think the divorce will be final then? 

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i know there was another bee somewhere making plans/bookings for her wedding and her FI’s divorce was held up – so for me, my thoughts are dont be making any deposits until you know legally he is free to marry

Post # 7
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, I’m not divorced, but I am engaged.

My ex H (and yes, I do consider him this) asked me to delay our divorce until after his mother died.  Our marriage had been one in name only for about 2 years. We decided to split literally days before she was diagnosed with terminal cancer….we hadn’t even got around to telling his parents.  I agreed, mainly because at the time she was only given about 6 months to live, and didn’t see the point of making her last months more miserable (ex H is an only child and she was always proud of his being married)

I was already friends with my now Fiance, and we started seeing each other soon after my seperation…which we managed to explain to exILs as me ‘working away’ 

exMIL ended up dying 2 and a half years after diagnosis. Fiance and I got engaged 8 months before it happened.

It’s not the ideal situation – luckily myself, Fiance and ex H all get on very well.  Bad reactions have come mainly from other people, like friends and FI’s parents.  I’m hoping we will finally be legally divorced by this summer.

Engagement is only a decleration of intent to marry, it has no legal binding. 

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