(Closed) This is turning out to be very costly….

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 17
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The only figure which is excessive is probably the photographer. Not saying that you should skimp on a good photographer (as pictures are the one thing you have left after the wedding). However, you could probably get a decent one for $2000? After all, it’s a wedding with only 10 people, so he wouldn’t need an assistant etc.

Post # 18
51 posts
Worker bee

If you have friends that have been married for 10 years, ask them if you could look at their photos. Then ask yourself can you justify spending 4500 dollars on the very best photographer. Ask them what they think? Wedding photo’s tend to get dated and you need to pay a good photographer but I am not sure about that price.  What are you getting with that, copy rights?    material ownership? 

Post # 19
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@thumpurr:  Do you mind if I ask where you’re having your DW? If you mentioned it somewhere, I’m sorry for being redundant. We are having ours in Thailand, and  the cost of the venue includes all the decorations, flowers (including my bouquet and all the boutonnieres but excluding Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets) and the wedding cake. Could you ask if the price of your venue includes such things, or perhaps, offers a discount on such things? I think resorts in Jamaica, Mexico, etc also have packages that include quite a bit without it being too expensive. I think I was surprised at how much weddings cost, too! I set a budget for my dress but forgot about the alterations, the veil, the accessories, etc, AND I also neglected to budget for the other things like invitations and alcohol, so it was a not-so-great surprise when I finally had some sense to download a wedding checklist-and-budget app. It’s crazy how the cost of every little thing adds up!

I’m big on the photography, too, so that’s actually where a huge fraction of our budget is going to, except we’re hiring one from Malaysia. Flying him into Thailand and paying for his and the other photographer’s accommodation would still be less expensive than the photographers here in Philly. I know a lot of my friends who recently got married in Philly and New Jersey paid about that same price you were quoted though.

With your dress, I would definitely recommend that you shop around and do price comparisons. This, I think, was the best trick I learned from a friend! If you find one that you LOVE, take that price you were first qouted and let a different salon that carries the same designer know. More often than not, the 2nd salon would be more than willing to beat that price. Trunk shows are also a great way to save money. I know Macy’s Bridal Salons by Demetrios offer up to 20% off their dresses during their trunk shows and holiday (President’s Day, Black Friday, Day after Christmas) sales. And then, there’s my favorite place, RK Bridal, where we got our Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for a couple of friends’ weddings a couple of years ago. They’re an authorized online retailer for a bunch of designers with a physical location in NYC and more often than not, their prices are less than what regular salons quote you. You also don’t have to pay tax if you’re not in New York. I ended up getting my bridal gown from a salon near me during a trunk show. It was a little more expensive than RK’s price (100 or so, if I remember correctly) but i liked that I wouldn’t have to travel to New York for alterations, etc. I did use RK’s price to negotiate the price of my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses when we were shopping around though and lo and behold, one of the salons in Jersey (tax-free on gowns) agreed to price-match…Score!


Post # 23
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@thumpurr:  Your venue sounds amazing, and it’s going to be a heck of a wedding – with your closest family and friends by your side, and you get to spend time with them. 🙂 i’m sorry I just threw all that dress information at you by stupidly assuming you were close to a million salons. i’m really sorry. I think making all those appointments during the weekend would help, and you know what? If you find something, and RK still has lower prices, you can always tell the salon where you saw THE dress that you’d rather get it from them if they can beat RK’s prices. I miss dress-shopping. I had so much fun and still joke with my mom that I wish I hadn’t found my dress so soon…hehehe…even though I’ve had no regrets!

As for the photographer, I don’t know what the prices are like where you are, but I completely understand when you said you worry about having a lot of pictures of very similar things, especially when the wedding is very intimate.

Let me know if you need help with anything. I’m learning about little things here and there as I go along myself. 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 24
3667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@thumpurr:  never mind, I didn’t read carefully. good luck with this.

Post # 25
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

Like the others have said, you can always save on the photographer, but only you can decide if this is worth the $4500 or not.  Is the photog located in the Lake Tahoe area or somewhere else?  I would suggest looking in other cities nearby as well to see if you can find one that you love for less money, as many from other areas will travel (some charge a travel fee while others don’t).  Maybe check photogs in the Northern CA area as well.  It sounds like you are having a very small wedding, so 8 hours would probably be enough if your photog has a package for that amount of time.  Good luck!

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