(Closed) This is unsettling…i need some advice

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@vivalavida:  I think you need to be very up front and firm with him and say that you do not appreciate his comments, nor do you return his desires. tell him to stop and then don’t initiate anymore conversation with him. To stay on the safe side, save any conversations with him in case this turns into a bigger issue of harassment. Be firm and honest. not wanting to be confrontational and saying nothing to him will only give him the idea that you don’t mind and might even like the things he’s saying. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would just unfriend and block him. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@vivalavida:  Just ignore him, unfriend/block him and don’t respond to his attempts to reach you. Plain and simple. Unless he threatened to come find you/harm you, then you have nothing to worry about.

Post # 6
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Double post…darn website.

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@vivalavida:  Definitely tell him in no uncertain terms that you are NOT interested in him like that. If he persists, document ANYTHING and EVERYTHING he says/does to you. Blocking him is also a good idea. If you’re afraid he may try stalking your home, you could make some bull posting about moving elsewhere, and start using your phone to ‘tag’ you at your fake new place (some apartments or something vague). I’m sure the other bees would have some suggestions too.

If all else fails, report him to the police, include your documentation on him and see about getting a restraining order.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Has he said or done anything that makes you think that he poses a danger to you? Asking for a “bj,” while stupid, isn’t exactly freak-out worthy in my opinion, especially since we haven’t seen both sides of the conversation. If you’ve been giving him your number and sending him pictures, he probably has the wrong idea. He’s a 16 year old boy — they’re not exactly known for maturity.

Explain to him that you didn’t appreciate him saying that to you. If he doesn’t apologize or continues to make you feel uncomfortable, block him on facebook. I highly doubt that he will try to get your GPS coordinates off of facebook and stalk you or anything.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Ugh, teenage boys. Horny and the worst.

Be firm, stay firm, and don’t budge. Tell him you have no desire to do anything of the like with him. Block/unfriend.

Post # 10
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Why do you keep giving him information? If you feel unsafe, you should block him. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Obviously you need to ignore this guy and unfriend him. Sure, he knows where you live, but just because someone asks for a BJ doesn’t mean they’re going to just show up at your house to get it. He’s a teenage boy, he’s just being really stupid. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@vivalavida:  Just ignore him and don’t worry about it. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I guess I don’t see the issue other than him being inappropriate when you aren’t interested. He doesn’t sound like he has any intent to hurt you – at least not from what you said. I’d just ignore him. He’ll get the message.

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