- Juno 05
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Jimmy Choo = amazing! Accept the gift, its your wedding day! 🙂
Jimmy Choo = amazing! Accept the gift, its your wedding day! 🙂
You have a very kind stepmom.
IMO, those shoes are worth $150-250. If I wanted them I would wait till they go on sale (I have bought boots that originally retailed for over $1000 for just over $200, I love me a good shoe on sale) and keep looking. I believe $550-value shoes do exist but I’d be expecting something more unique/complex/rare. Not to say these aren’t nice…they are, that’s why I put a $250 price tag on them personally, in terms of what I think is reasonable.
But now you have the issue with your stepmom writing you a check for them and not insulting her generosity. I also know that if you’re really infatuated with something, you’ll put a higher price tag on it than another person would, so IDK, maybe $550 is what these shoes are worth to you. I agree that you should only use her check for these shoes if you use it at all, unless you work out a different arrangement with her beforehand (such as buying a different more affordable pair you find and love just as much and sending her back the surplus as a check from you to her). Generally I would say don’t rush this decision. Make sure you can try on these shoes before you’re locked in (don’t buy from a place with a bad return policy). Expensive shoes can be just as uncomfortable as more affordable shoes, they vary, you need to try them out and see. Also consider that the heel is very skinny. You need strong ankles for this pair, ankle strap notwithstanding.
What I suggest is that you:
– thank her profusely for her generosity but explain you have never tried on these shoes so you’re not sure you’ll love them so this is your plan:
– use her check to order these shoes from a good place where you can easily return them without problems if you don’t love them (this is assuming you can’t try them on in person at a local store first before buying, which would be even better). Take a test-walk in these shoes and figure out whether these are as great as you hope! If they are not completely teh awesome, return the shoes and either: write her a return check immediately or find a more affordable pair that is comfortable and ask her for her thoughts on those (write a return check for the difference if she feels like buying the less-expensive shoes as a gift to you).
@AlliMayWedding: Have you tried them on even? They don’t look that comfortable… especially since you’ve had foot surgery! o_O Those heels are skinny.
If they’re really super comfortable, I’d take her gift and repay her with something. She wants you to have them. However, I’d make sure they really would be good. I haven’t even had foot surgery, and I wouldn’t care for the slenderness of that heel at all to have to walk around in all day.
Also, they are at your max height… and you’ll be wearing them for several hours… are you REALLY sure they’re the perfect shoe after foot surgery…? lol
I say buy them and don’t feel bad. Think about how great it must make your stepmom feel that she is in a position to buy something so frivolous and fabulous for someone she loves on her wedding day. Just pay it forward!
HEY! Those were my dream shoes too!!!! I could NEVER find anything like them, or find them used in my size on eBay or any used wedding websites!
I think you should get them. I would’ve loved to have worn them, and I’d probably wear them again and again for dressing up. I think they’re fab, please get them and post recaps!
But in all seriousness… If your step-mom really wants to gift you a pair of shoes, and she’s being pretty adamant, I think you should accept them. I don’t know her, but I have in-laws that are very generous and are offended if someone doesn’t accept their gifts.
I say don’t overthink it. It’s up to your stepmom if she wants to spend the money, and it’s pretty obvious that she does. I say, accept them, be grateful, and ENJOY.
I have injured feet, too, and ended up spending over $300 on my shoes. I couldn’t wear heels, so I searched for months for flats that made me really excited to wear them, and made me feel like my stupid feet weren’t preventing me from being beautiful and feminine. For what it’s worth, here are mine:
I think that is a sweet, genuine gesture for your stepmom to do and you should graciously accept it. Don’t focus so much on the price – they are a classic style, neutral in color so that you can wear them for years and years to come. Divide that by the $500 and it’s not really so much $ per each time worn, right?
(take pictures when you get them!!)
I spent over $1000 on my jimmy choos and I regret every penny. it’s because I’m not a “shoe” girl and I never wear highheels over 2.5″ and it’s just so not me, but I kinda got caught up in the moment with the idea of “my first jimmy choos!!” and how every detail of the wedding has to be ~perfect~ and because I hadn’t found any other shoe after looking everywhere for weeks. but I really think it’s super over-priced, especially since they don’t wear very well. the bottom gets worn so quick, they’re not made for wearing (you’d have to patch the bottom before you wear them, if you really wanted to wear them for more than one day!). also it felt really comfortable in the store, but as I started walking around in it, it HURT! because I’m not the type to wear heels that high, so it was just really… weird.
also you barely see the shoes under the dress, ha… ;P maybe I’d have felt it’s worth it if I got a short dress, hmm! (nah)
but that’s just my horror story. perhaps you’ll turn out to really enjoy it! and hey, a gift is a gift. ;} as long as you fully appreciate it, it’s a gift well given! though personally I think you can do better than jimmy choo, for comfort.
I say keep looking, Especially if you have more time. Have you tried Jcrew? or even looked on ebay. Its a generous gift but I would stick to budget especially if you aren’t a shoe person.
I am so impressed you can wear such high heels after ankle surgery! I broke my ankle about a year ago and have just been able to wear heels again.
I say go for it! Your step mom really wouldn’t gift them to you if she didn’t sincerely want you to have them. As others have said, write her a nice thank you note and wear those shoes forever! 🙂
I spend A LOT on shoes, so I’m probably biased, but personally I don’t think $525 is too much at all, esp as you’ll wear them again I imagine.
I have 2 pairs of wedding shoes at a total cost of over $900; and then only because we got lucky on one pair and got a hefty $300 discount (long story short they messed up and put the wrong price on; we were fully expecting to pay full-price). I will have both pairs for years to come, and will wear both pairs again (one is actually the Jimmy Choo Isabel in the same fabric as the ones you like), so to me it makes more sense to splurge on the shoes than the dress (I don’t get people who spend like $2000 on a dress and $50 on shoes; but like I said, I am obsessed with shoes lol)
You have all been soooooo helpful! While I was still being indecisive, my step mom called my fiancé and she set up a lunch date for my dad and fiancé today so my dad can give my fiancé the check for the shoes. So I guess she kind of made up my mind for me and I HAVE to accept the $ and get these shoes. She’s being very persistent and crazy generous. I would never expect to consider shoes like this and I’m so beyond appreciative. I think she’s already annoyed with all of my ‘thank-you’s!’
A few people have stated that the $ should be used on the shoes and not anything else. Just wanted to say that I completely agree with this and would never consider using her $ in a way she did not intend it to be used.
Lots of you have brought the comfort issue up, especially because of the ankle surgery I’ve had. Thank you for your consideration! I’ve been thinking this over a lot.. My surgery was 9 years ago and I’ve worn several pairs of heels since then, so I have a pretty good idea of what shoes will “work” and what won’t. I thinnnnnk these will work – I have a similar pair in a different color/brand and I do just fine in them. But this brand is completely new to me so I know it could be a completely different story. So here is the plan…
-If I buy the shoes from Nordstrom.com they have free shipping and free returns. I can also return online purchases to any Nordstrom store, free of charge. Luckily I have 3 different Nordstrom’s near me to choose from.
-I’ll order THE shoes from Nordstrom.com, try them on and wear them around the house for a full day (or as long as I can last). Hopefully they are the right size, gorgeous, and comfortable! If all is well, I’ll keep them and live happily ever after.
-If they’re not comfortable, I’ll let my stepmom know that they are gorgeous but I can’t walk in them. I’m positive, she will understand. (What’s the point in having shoes you can’t walk in?) I’ll continue my search… and possibly try these next:
They don’t have a strap, but they are only 1.5” heel/wedge.. so they may work out.
If the 2nd pair of shoes don’t work out, the search will continue! The wedding is not until the end of May so I have some time to deal with a few purchase/return/purchase cycles if need be. The ‘plan’ should work, right?!??
I plan to keep my stepmom involved in every little detail of the shoe hunt process, so that she’s not blindsighted/confused/hurt if it’s the wedding day and I’m not in the original shoes she thought she was gifting me. I’ve already told her how thankful I am and will probably continue to do so until the wedding! I also started looking for a really good gift to give her on the wedding day, along with a thank you card/note. Maybe a nice piece of jewelry that coordinates with her dress so she can wear it the day of? She is a total ‘shoe girl’ so I’m sure she will have her own pair of fabulous shoes for the wedding. I thought of having my photographer take a picture of the 2 of us showing off our shoes and having that framed for her if it turns out nice… We’ll see!
Can I just say how much easier dress shopping was?! It took me an hour to find and purchase my dress. It actually ended up being the first one I tried on. I’ve been shoe shopping for months now!
THANKS FOR ALL OF YOUR HELP BEES!!!!
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