(Closed) This isn’t fun anymore.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

It happens to a lot of us – planning a wedding is STRESSFUL!!!!  I would take a couple of days off, and regroup. Make decisions, and stick to them. Be FIRM with people (we’ve already decided on that” and change the subject or walk away). I’m looking at you, Grandma!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I feel like I could have written this myself. I wish I had some advice for you, but I am going through the same exact thing right now. And it sucks. I feel like family and the bridal party is ruining this whole experience for us. It’s just not fun anymore. Hang in there and know that you are NOT alone.

Post # 5
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1934 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I also feel like I could have written that.  We’re 4 months out, and Fiance said to me last night “you’re right, we should have just eloped”  It makes me so sad!  It definitely sucks when everyone is arguing and bickering.  It’s not worth it!!!  Hang in there girl!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

A few weeks back, I went through the same thing. I felt like the wedding was driving me crazy and just kind of wanted the whole process to be over and done with. All I can recommend is just to try and maybe take a break from wedding planning or thinking about anything wedding related for a while (a few days or a week maybe if you can spare the time). Go out with some friends or go on a date with your fiance and just enjoy life outside of the wedding. I did this and it helped me out quite a bit when I was feeling sad and overwhelmed. I hope you feel better soon!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Take a couple of days off from planning. Have a date with Fiance this weekend- NO wedding talk allowed. It will work wonders!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@rebwana:  Completely agree!

Definately have a weeding free week, or at least a couple of days. Quit talking to your mom and Grandma about every little detail, giv ethem specifics and stick with “That has already been taken care of, this is what we decided.”

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@rebwana:  I compleatly agree!

Sometimes you just have to step back and RELAX! If you and your Fiance need a break then have a date night or each of you go and do your own thing for a day. The day before the wedding my Darling Husband told me to get out of the house and relax because I was freaking out about everything but before that I only had 4 months to plan it all. It was very stressful but he always told me to shut up and go read a book (my way of relaxing) if I was getting too worked up. He even surprised me on occasion with a trip out of the house to a non-wedding-related location where we could both have fun. You still have 2 months to plan everything. One or two days relaxing isn’t going to mess the whole thing up.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Valerita:  I totally understand. I cried more than not when planning our wedding. My suggestion to you is to

1) Stop talking to your mother for a few days. Ignore phone calls or keep convos short, ie “Let me call you back, my doctor/dentist/boss is on the other line” and then dont.

2) Take a few days and don’t wedding plan or think about the wedding. Take a day with your Fiance and go to the park, relax, hold hands, and enjoy each other

I hope this helps! We here at the Bee know what you’re going thtrough!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so sorry! I cried more in the last few months of wedding planning that I ever have in my entire life. While I always say I would never plan another wedding, my wedding came out better than I could have imagined and it was worth every tear.

Try to take a small break, even if it’s a cup of coffee with a friend and don’t talk about the wedding. Also, delegate tasks. Most of the big stuff is done by now so ask those around you if they can help, most people are very willing.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m so sorry you are dealing with family pressures, that sucks! I concur with all the previous: take a week (or more!) OFF from wedding planning. Guess what- it will be ok! 

My only other suggestion is to delegate some stuff- to your Fiance, your BMs, and maybe your Mom or Grandma (haha) if you can accept that they might not do it the way you would have, but it will be done. Lighten your load so you don’t need to stress over all the details.

and lastly, over and over again from recent brides I hear- don’t sweat the small stuff! guests don’t notice! We get so caught up and worry about a million things, and really all that a wedding needs is two people in love and a few guests there to witness it and everyone be happy and celebrate. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Valerita:  I’m feeling very much the same as you! There is so much to do, so many details, so many things on my fiances list (and I am TRYING not to nag about getting them done…things I can’t do, like get measured for the tux!) and so many opinions that I just don’t want to hear!! lol….but now that I found out about Scruitol from your post, I may have to self-medicate and I’m sure I’ll feel better tomorrow morning! lol – that made my day! 🙂

Post # 15
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

hee hee I have been there! I totally take a week or two off every now and again and sneak in a quick date with Fiance when I can:)

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

 

Trust me, you are not alone in this. I have considered the exact same thing. My divorced parents are being very immature, I am having bridesmaid drama where my old friend is feeling insecure (yes just like the movie!), worrying about money, and all that fun stuff. However, I figure the day will all be worth it. You will be marrying the man you love. You two should have a day for yourselves where you do not discuss the wedding at all. Just a relaxing day like cooking a nice meal at home, going hiking, or getting a couple’s massage.

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