Post # 1
Hello there everyone….
I need to vent! I always thougt that planning your wedding is suposed to be fun and exciting… although most days it is… lately i have been so upset and very down and out and fustrated!!! My fiance and I decided we wanted to get married at a particular venue which also held the reception. The space can only hold 18 round tables thus 180 ppl max! at the beggining of the engagement all families gave a list… onle list from each side of people.. this list compiled to over 300 people… so we had a hard task of cutting people off based on our own desicions.. it is our wedding isnt it??? so we finally sent out all the invitations, AND THEN STARTED THE DRAMA!!!! 3 cousins were not invited so we were ultimately forced to add them to please… then two children were not invited (only kids in the wedding party are going) and some member said that if we didnt invite those kids, then they werent going… now I get an rsvp back and It was for 3 people and they decided to invite the boyfriend of their daughter (which I dont know)… How do I tell them that he isnt invited?????
Post # 3
You just call and explain that you don’t have space for them to attend the wedding, but appreciate the thought.
Post # 4
Yea.. I would just call and say ‘sorry, reception site is at capacity… can’t accomodate your daughters boyfriend, her baby daddy and her random hook up last night’ .. or something to that effect. LOL! You could also have your mom or coordinator do it
Post # 5
I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. @louisianablue: is right. As awkward as it may feel to you, you have to pick up the phone, call the person who unilaterally chose to invite uninvited guests (be they boyfriends of their children or their own children or anyone else) to your wedding. You simply tell them that, although you are honored that so-and-so would be interested in coming, and you would love to be able to invite others to share in your special day, unfortunately, the space limitations of your venue simply will not allow it. You can end the conversation by saying something such as, “Thank you again for understanding that we just cannot accommodate so-and-so at the wedding. However, we are very much looking forward to seeing you and _________ (name of anyone else from her family who actually was invited.)
Post # 7
You’re just going to have to explain that while you wish you could invite everyone, space and finance limitations just doesn’t allow it. Sorry!
Post # 8
Yeah, either you or a close friend or family member need to let them know that the invitation was addressed according to who was invited, and unfortunately you have numbers you have to stay within.
I would also not cave on people’s threats, etc because that will lead people to belive there is negotiating room. If they don’t want to come because of it, I doubt you want them there. Say politely that you’re very very sorry they won’t be able to make it, but that you understand and look forwarding to catching up sometime.
Post # 9
Thanks Ladies!!!! I knew you girls would ease the issue for me… and put alittle humor in it! lol