(Closed) THIS ISNT FUN ANYMORE!!!! please help with etiquette on rsvp responses…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1916 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You just call and explain that you don’t have space for them to attend the wedding, but appreciate the thought.

Post # 4
5183 posts
Bee Keeper

Yea.. I would just call and say ‘sorry, reception site is at capacity… can’t accomodate your daughters boyfriend, her baby daddy and her random hook up last night’ .. or something to that effect. LOL! You could also have your mom or coordinator do it 

Post # 5
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. @louisianablue: is right. As awkward as it may feel to you, you have to pick up the phone, call the person who unilaterally chose to invite uninvited guests (be they boyfriends of their children or their own children or anyone else) to your wedding. You simply tell them that, although you are honored that so-and-so would be interested in coming, and you would love to be able to invite others to share in your special day, unfortunately, the space limitations of your venue simply will not allow it.  You can end the conversation by saying something such as, “Thank you again for understanding that we just cannot accommodate so-and-so at the wedding. However, we are very much looking forward to seeing you and _________ (name of anyone else from her family who actually was invited.)

Post # 7
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You’re just going to have to explain that while you wish you could invite everyone, space and finance limitations just doesn’t allow it. Sorry!


Post # 8
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah, either you or a close friend or family member need to let them know that the invitation was addressed according to who was invited, and unfortunately you have numbers you have to stay within. 

I would also not cave on people’s threats, etc because that will lead people to belive there is negotiating room. If they don’t want to come because of it, I doubt you want them there. Say politely that you’re very very sorry they won’t be able to make it, but that you understand and look forwarding to catching up sometime. 

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