Post # 1
We have 37 days to go…and it’s becoming very stressful very quick. I feel so overwhelmed w/ things that need to get done: programs, centerpieces, decorations, etc. To make matters worse, money is quickly dwindling. I have yet to finish paying off the photographer, buy presents, pay for the minister, pay my make-up artist, etc. It’s so bad I feel like canceling everything & going to the courthouse. I’m supposed to go to Vegas in 2 weeks for my bachelorette weekend & I am NOT looking forward to that. I cannot enjoy myself in the least because all I think about is the money aspect. I’m in tears constantly & I don’t sleep. Is this normal? I just never imagined I’d be so close to my breaking point I’d want to cancel our wedding!
Post # 3
I’m so sorry @Cara! I get married 6 days after you so I know your frustration. Can you mention to your Maid/Matron of Honor & BM’s or your family that you really need help with centerpieces etc and you’d appreciate any help. Just tell them how stressed you are and maybe someone will step up and help! Don’t get discouraged, I know that once I got the centerpieces done I felt a lot better. Maybe work on programs one night then something else another? Or if you are really overwhelmed skip programs, they aren’t mandatory!
As far as money, is there a way to cut costs? Maybe if makeup is really expensive look for someone cheaper or go to a dept store and get it done?
Post # 4
Sounds like you need a planning break!!! Date night!
I suggest a picnic dinner, complete with a bottle of wine (even a $5 one) and chocolate cupcakes, and some time to spend curled up with your honey, no wedding talk allowed!
Post # 5
Wow, everything you wrote is as if I wrote it myself. I’m getting married the same weekend as you and feeling exactly as you are. I am now starting to have bridal breakdowns regularily. My Fiance doesn’t know how to handle me anymore! I can’t offer any advice because I’m in the same boat, but at least you know you’re not alone!
Post # 6
Please note: This is intended to be calming, not to belittle ANYthing you’ve mentioned.
Programs – not needed (I’ve only been to one wedding that had them). Centerpieces – the only thing I remember about centerpieces from any wedding are ones that got in the way. Make-up artist – optional. Presents – again, only been to one wedding where anyone other than the bride and groom got gifts (one of them as the Maid/Matron of Honor, who flew in from overseas, hand-made my stupidly complex dress at the bride’s insistence, bought both mine and the bride’s jewelry… and I didn’t get a thing.) Can you convince the people at your bacholerette weekend to pare down on the activities so it doesn’t cost as much?
Starting off with financial worries will cause far more problems than paring down on stuff you haven’t already paid for. It’s one day, and all that matters is that you’re married to the man of your dreams at the end of it.
Post # 7
@Soon2beeMrsM: I’m thinking of nixing the hair & make-up girls & everybody doing their own/each others. While it’s important to look fab, I simply don’t have an extra $300+ for hair/make-up. I really feel like my girls have not been supportive or helpful up to this point, so why start now. If it weren’t for my mom, aunt & close family friend I’d be even further behind than I am now.
@Soon2beeMrsM: You are so right! We both need time away from wedding planning, and w/ this long weekend hopefully we’ll get that much needed time.
@cyneswith: Thank you so much for your advice. You certainly did not offend in the least 🙂 I just feel we need programs because we’ll be doing a couple of things throughout the ceremony and don’t want to leave guests in the dark. The centerpieces are relatively easy, it’s just buying (more $) the vases & putting everything together (manzanita trees). I desperately want to cancel Vegas, but everything has been booked & paid for. I feel I’d do more harm than good @ this point.
@Misstnt: As horrible as this sounds, because I wouldn’t wish this desperation & stress on anyone, I really am glad I’m not alone. Most everyone is so excited & happy & I just want to scream & pull my hair out! I pray this passes soon…this is supposed to be a happy time, right?? Right??
Thank goodness I have a humongo bottle of pomegranate margaritas in the fridge…I have a feeling this is going to be one of those weekends!
Post # 8
@CaraMia10: I’m sorry you’re feeling so stressed but I can totally relate! I’m two weeks out and just have so much going on in my life there’s no excitement for the wedding 🙁