(Closed) This long engagement is frustrating me (vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hear you on the long engagement.  Ours will be 2.5 years.  If you’re doing some DIY projects, you could always start some of those.  I’ve started a few projects, so when I get that “I want to do something for the wedding!” feeling, I work on a project!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, why are you waiting until 2012 then? Can you find a way to have it in the fall of next year? That is still plenty of time for planning.

To me, birthday’s are really not that big of a deal. It’s a day. You get a day. NOt a month. If you want your wedding in December, then have it in December. Don’t let one bride reserve a whole month. It’s crazy and brides are having blood pressure problems over it. If I were you, I would stick to my original date.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Our engagement will be just shy of 8 months. Why not just move up the date, since you have all the planning in order anyway?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Chances are between now and your wedding, you’ll come across new ideas or when you look at what you planned and be like oh god what was I thinking? Keep browsing this site for ideas, look at recaps from other brides. Just keep learning and looking around. It’ll only make your wedding better 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, look at it this way:

This year is basically over. Thanksgiving and Christmas are right around the corner and 2010 will be over. You can probably get faster responses from vendors in Jan. since it’s not a popular wedding timeand you can start knocking stuff out of the way. If you have to wait until May of 2012, then you just have to wait. There is plenty to do. You can spend your time reading the boards and getting ideas. You can watch videos of DIY stuff. You can start making wedding goals such as what you want your overall wedding to be like and what you want to accomplish with it. Enjoy the time you have. Be glad you have it. There are lots of bees on this site who wished they had more time planning after it was over.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve been engaged since Nov 2008…our wedding is set for May 2011. I didn’t do much at all in 2009 except think of ideas every once in a while…most of my ideas have changed! Most of our vendors are different from the ones I originally wanted to book! Like Ms. Tattoo suggested, I’d start things up at the beginning of next year. This past January I started talking to caterers as well as coordinators. In February I started looking for photographers. 

In all honesty, I probably would have waited to do anything…because not having as much to do has made the engagement feel a lot longer! Plus, your tastes will more than likely change. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We have been together for just over 10 years, and our engagemnet will be two years minus one day. I don’t think one and half years is to long at all. I have been able to do so much planning and get things just the way we want because we have more time to look at and book vendors without being rushed. Also, you can get the best discounts and the best vendors by booking early. And… I have been able to do a lot of DIY items that I would just not have had the time or energy to do with a short engagement. I think you should make the best of it and do your research and get started on your DIY, if you are doing DIY. I only have about five or six things left on my DIY list and only one vendor left to book; the bar staff. I am so happy for our long engagement. I think you should be too 🙂

My goal is to have everything completed by the end of the year, so I can just sit back and relax for the next few months before our wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SouthernGirl: Perhaps you can just get married at the courthouse then. I mean, it seems to me you really don’t have too many options if you want the wedding that you want. Hey, you may change your mind over the next few months. I’ve changed my color scheme six times already. I’m glad I have the time because I am learning how to sew. I am making my own table linens and facinator. IN fact, I’m going to MIchaels tonight to see if I can find any fabric to make a fabric flower.

Maybe take up blogging and start documenting what you have done so far. You may help another bride out in her planning.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

February has 2 birthdays and a baby due, I don’t see how that prevents you from picking a day in that month.  Could you do Nov. ’11? I know Fiance promised he’d be done with school, but would a few weeks really mean he’s breaking that promise? I just think if you don’t want to wait until May, then don’t.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had to plan my wedding around 6 Jeep weekends, two barbecues and every kids graduation party.  Finally I just put my foot down and said everyone else can change their plans!  I only get one day and they have birthdays every year.  Eventually you will have to put your foot down, so you can have the day that you want.  You can’t always plan your event around everyone else.  You may never get the day you want.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I hear you. : / It’s frustrating to be in a rut. You get all excited in the beginning and plan and plan and plan, but then you have to wait to book! Ugh!

Have you tried calling the vendors and checking if they’ll book early? Maybe you could book a couple of them, and get started on contracts, etc.

As an aside, I’d TOTALLY be pissed at my cousin if she took my wedding date KNOWING that I’d picked it out already…but it’s unclear whether or not yours knew, and it’s a topic for another post anyways.

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