(Closed) This lovely economy…. Should we relocate?

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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1741 posts
Bumble bee

Wow, tht’s exciting and scary all at the same time. I was recently in a very similar position and feel like I have a bit of a logical perspective on this that you may not get in the next 2 days. So, forgive me if this is overwhelming but there are many factors to think about.

Will they pay for his relocation? Does this involve a hotel at first to allow time to find an apartment? If they do not cover relocation costs, really consider how much out of pocket costs you guys will incur in the move.

Can he go ahead of you? Take some time to remotely look for a job in his city will working at your part time job and tying up loose ends in your current location including any sort of contracts you may need to cancel (lease, internet, cable, etc.) This also gives him a chance to test out the job and city and make sure it is as good as it sounds. This is important, my cousin once got a great job offer 2 hours away, he and his wife planned to sell their house and move but planned 6 months of commute to adjust and allow her to find a new job. In that time, he learned a lot about the company, including that they could not afford to keep him past the second month so they were thankful she had not quit her job or put the house on the market. Consider a 6 month transition period where you can visit him in his new place and he can do a bit of setteling into the position alone.

As far as your resume, that is a non-issue in my opinion. I would just put that you quit your job to start your own business and had “various part time work” to bridge the gap. When applying for full time jobs, you could mention in the interview that you realize your business is more of a part time business than a new career.

Finally, you will have to deal with living away from your family and this is not something everyone thinks can do. However, from my experience, I believe it is possible if you put in effort to be happy in your new city and realize that it will not be an easy transition to move to a place where you do not have a built in support system. Through grad school I never lived more than an hour away from my parents with the exception of a semester spent abroad. Then I moved across the Atlantic ocean and it was Very Hard for the first year and even into the second and third year at times. But it is also fun and very self motivating to know you can sucessfully live independently. Find a job, join a club, buy a Skype subscription and a web cam and you can do it too.

I wish you the best of luck in making this decision together as a family.

Post # 18
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1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I will keep this subject in mind. This is my hugest fear also. I am VERY close to my family and I cant imagine moving states away from them. 

Thanks for sharing. Good luck!

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Husband has a job right now, but we’re both terribly unhappy with the hours (he works graveyard shift nights) so he’s been looking for a new job for the past few months and hasn’t even gotten a single call for an interview. We might have to start thinking about relocating somewhere as well. I say it’s definitely worth looking into. He should go on those interviews and you should go with him to scope the areas if you can. If you guys like everything then why not consider it. It could be a great change for you both!

Post # 20
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry. Please delete. Double Post.

Post # 21
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773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

So what did you decide to do?

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@HotPinkFire:  Congrats on the decision! Can I ask you how your hubby went about getting a job in a different state? We’re really trying to move to a different state too but it seems hard to get a job if your not already living there. Did he put something about it in his cover letter? Did he state in the cover letter that he would be willing to pay for the flight for an in-person interview or aynthing like that? Did he have a phone interview? Any and all info about this would be SUPER helpful! Thanks! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
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1741 posts
Bumble bee

Congratulations on your decision! Hopefully this will only bring good things for both of you.

Post # 27
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577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@HotPinkFire:

 

I just stumbled across this thread.  I’m happy to hear that you guys were able to come to a decision that works for you.  Where in Texas are you moving?  I’m pretty familiar Dallas, Central Tx and Houston, and would be happy to give you some tips to help make it more fun!

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