- Ms. Sloth
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I have a confession:
I avoided Weddingbee like the plague in the beginning. Part of it was that my experience on The Knot poisoned me against wedding boards. Part of if was that I thought the bees’ nicknames were a bit too cutesy (I still sort of think that, but I understand that they are needed in order to maintain anonymity, so whatevs). Part of it was that I didn’t identify aesthetically with some of the bloggers so I didn’t think that I’d get any inspiration out of this place. The biggest part of it, well, I’ll get to that in a minute.
I started coming here more and more often, and everyone is really helpful. I haven’t seen any bitchiness like I have on The Knot, and I’ve gotten a lot of good advice here. And while it’s true that my aesthetic vision is different from most of the bloggers, I’ve found a bunch of inspiration from certain bees (esp. Cowboy Boot, Stripes, Scissors, Mouse, and Sprinkle, to name a few). And even the bloggers that have a different vision than I do, well, they’re still full of good advice. So I was really, really coming around to this place.
The one thing that stopped me was the eHarmony connection. I hated that Weddingbee was run by a dating service that was founded by an evangelical Christian who said that, since same-sex marriage was illegal in most states and they didn’t want to promote something illegal, they weren’t going to match same-sex couples. YUCK.
I had a really hard time getting over that.
But today, after doing some more research on eHarmony, I found out that a few months ago, they launched a same-sex dating site! Yes, it was only launched as a response to a lawsuit from the State of New Jersey against discrimination of same-sex couples. But at least it’s there.
So while I still have major issues with the main ideologies of eHarmony, I’m glad that they run a same sex dating site, and it makes me feel a lot better about spending so much time here on the Bee.
And now I will step down off of my soapbox.
Did any of you have a problem with eHarmony’s values? Were you even aware of them?