(Closed) This makes me soooo sad!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

honestly – stop trying.  You can’t win with some people.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  This exactly!

My Mother-In-Law didn’t come to my shower- didn’t even acknowledge it.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can’t control what other people do or say, but you can control your reaction.

These people are who they are and they are not going to change.

They are not hosting the wedding- you and your parents are, so it should come as no surprise to them that their names are not on the invitation.

They couldn’t bother to make the drive for your shower. How supportive is that?

Sounds like you are going to have to learn to deal with the fact that sometimes there wll be no pleasing them. Even given the opportunity to discuss the invitations, the Future Mother-In-Law had no input. Some people just like to criticize after the fact.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Some people are just miserable in general, so they walk the planet projecting their negativity onto others.  Don’t let them drag you down.

I agree with @GroovyHippieChick:.  Stop trying.  Don’t contact them. Surround yourself with people who are genuinely happy and excited for you.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry! I would feel hurt too after putting all that time and effort into my invitations. 

My Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law (married couple) haven’t said ONE word to me since Fiance and I have gotten engaged. No facebook message, no nothing. I guess they don’t really care about me joining the family.

As other PPs stated you just can’t win with some people. Just surround yourself with the people that are excited and happy for you and know that youv’e tried with the future in laws as much as you can. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You just can’t please people like that…..

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

For everyone saying they didn’t bother to “lift a finger” for the wedding, they’re the ones who made, birthed, and raised the groom. I didn’t know that space on invitations was only for “sponsors”. It’s not the side of a race car, after all. 

But what’s done is done. Not much you can do about it now.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  Agreed!

You have already tried, that is more than they can say. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@HeathenSwan:  The names of the hosts go on the invitations.  Her parents are hosting the event.  Hence, their names go on the invitation.  It doesn’t even need the be the name of a parent.  Say some rich uncle funded your wedding.  Your invitation should read:

Mr. Moneybags McGee requests the honor of your presence at the wedding of

B and G

And who cares if they gave birth to the groom some twenty or so years ago?  That doesn’t change the fact that they’re unsupportive and have a shitty attitude about his wedding. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would simply tell the in-laws it is traditional for the hosts’ names to go on the invites and leave it at that. They will get over it, or not. If they don’t, quite frankly, that’s their problem, not yours.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Maybe this will the kick in the butt they needed to get more involved. Don’t sweat it. If they try to be more involved in the future I would try to welcome that as much as possible but don’t feel bad about the invitations!

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