This makes or breaks the relationship, I'm freaking out?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

 

Well  if you really think his ex is capable of talking him into chucking you and taking her back, that is very bad news, but there is not a lot you can do, sadly.  I don’t know about the rent thing as there are no details. 

But, dear OP, it sounds like he is a non confrontational  – even weak – man and it is very unlikely this will materially change. And he may be quite happy with his own character. 

PS, you are not ‘literally dying inside’, unless you have some sort of necrotising disease lol !  

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

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mindzoo :  I think it depends on the situation and the details about it, details can change the situation within a blink of an eye. So it is hard to give you accurate to information and advice on it. 

Going off the two situations you said already… If it was about his ex trying to come back into his life and was absuive and that she was hard to move on from, then he needs to shut that shit down right there. Not ok, in terms for him or you. 

If it’s based about the rent, would be better if had more information to base advice from. He sounds like a guy who doesn’t like a lot of confrontation, maybe he just doesn’t want the hassle if it isn’t a big thing? Maybe he does stand up for more important things but doesn’t on stuff that isn’t, that might be one.

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Are you ever dumping this guy? 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2000

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slomotion :  omg I love your never sugar coating shit you simply lay it out there!

half the time u say what we are all thinking and want to say!

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper

“So I have reached a total crossroad in my relationship”

I think this is about the 10th crossroad you’ve reached in this shit show of a relationship. Will stay tuned for the next installment.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

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tiffanybruiser :  Oof. Cray cray.

OP . . . why? Just whyyyyyy???

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

OP, I remember your many many posts on here. Now when someone posts so many threads on here asking about their partner and questioning their relationship, I start to wonder if the partner is the issue or if the OP is the bigger one?

OP your partner could very well be the issue but I do think you spend way too much time in your head turning things every which way. My concern is that if you are that type of person to turn things over and over in your head, you are also the type of person to take something small or an innocent throw away comment or situation and make it into something way bigger. 

You don’t seem happy with this guy judging by your post history. Break up with him and give him a chance to find someone else he is better suited to. As for your self, find someone who is kind and caring but tells you stuff straight out with out  any form of pretext or game playing. I think a person with that type of personality will help you not to be in your headspace so much and turn everything around, every which way. When your partner says xyz you know they mean xyz, you will still naturally turn everything every which way in your head but you will deep down know that when your partner said xyz, they meant it! 

 

 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

J_Jaye said all there is to be said in a different topic of yours:

 

 

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

You again? You’re still with this guy?! Just dump him already! 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

TELL THAT BOY BYE. 

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