Post # 1
But what is the point of havinga seating chart at a reception? I’ve been to or in many weddings of both family and friends and I have never actually seen one where the bride assigned seats to people.
I’m just curious as to the purpose because it seems like a whole lot of extra work.
Post # 3
I think it’s more for bigger weddings so it’s not a free for all and people take seats from elsewhere or something? Not sure sorry, but free bump!
Post # 4
Seating charts (like map styles or big lists) are helpful if the tables are named vs. numbered so people know where the tables are, if the bride uses place cards vs. escort cards (assigning a seat vs just a table) or if you’re using tables that are anything but rounds.
You’ll definitely want to assign at least a table to guests (using escort cards, but many people just call them placecards) to cut down on guest confusion and needing more seats in the room than guests since they often won’t fill tables the same way as if you assigned it.
Hope that helps!
Post # 5
Some like it, some don’t.
It may be so that people don’t take a long time to sit down and figure out “who’s going to sit with who.” Some people do a seating chart to help mix the two families so that they converse and mingle together–some do the exact opposite. The only drawback to a seating chart is that people can feel “separated” from one another.
It’s just a preference, really. I did a seating charting for my mother’s wedding a couple of years ago and it was a lot of work–but nothing strenuous.
P.S. I wish I could find a 100 foot long table and just seat everyone at one big table. I don’t favor seating charts, but can give a sense of order if that’s what you want.
Post # 6
Mainly its to ensure that groups of people get to sit together and that tables have guests that either know each other or have something in common. Assigned seats make it easier for everyone to go into the reception without having to race to get a seat with their family or friends. Also, I think seating charts are sometimes required by venues for served plated meals.
Post # 7
Seating charrs make sure that everyone has a place to sit, often with like minded or similar groups (putting together all the 20 something college friends, cousins, etc). it ensures that big parties/familes can sit together as a unit. It eliminates confusion on the part of guests. Also you can ensure that important guests like grandparents are seated near the front or exits or wherever.
Post # 8
Okay sounds fair enough. I definitely can understand the point of a seating chart if you are having a plated meal.
It’s just weird..I’ve been to probably 30+ weddings over the years and I’ve never been to one where there was a seating chart. It’s always been “one of those weird things they do in the movies.” lol
Post # 9
In addition to the reasons listed above, I have a lot of families at my wedding and I don’t think they would have an easy time sitting at the same table otherwise. With a seating chart I can put my aunt’s family of 3 with my uncle’s family of 5. I can also do a singles table for my hs friends who all don’t have boyfriends.
Post # 10
@SweetHoneyBee: I hate weddings without a seating chart. I don’t want to be jockeying with other people for a seat. What if I get stuck sitting at a table with people I don’t know having to make small talk for hours? Or worse they kinda just ignore you because they know the other people at the table.
Just thinking about this makes me anxious.
Post # 11
@Treeline: I have to agree with you! 🙂 Seating charts can make people feel more comfortable if they are around people they like and can converse with while having a good time, haha.
Post # 12
I can see how that would be stressful. In my particular case I’m not really worried about it. We’re having long tables and everyone pretty much knows each other.
Most of the weddings I’ve been to focus on the dancing. People just grab a seat, spend 20 minutes or so eating and then EVERYONE is on the dance floor the rest of the night. That’s just the typical trend of weddings my family and friends have so I honestly would have never thought of having a seating chart for the ease and comfort of guests.
I was just curious if there was one particular reason why so many brides make one.