(Closed) This may sound crazy but I want to invite more in-laws!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s a really tricky situation – your fiance’s family sounds a lot like mine! I’ve got about 20 cousins on my dad’s side, and most of them have significant others and quite a few of them have children. They’re also really good fun and easy to get along (as are all their partners) so, for me, they had to be invited, because I grew up really close to them all and most of them make up my best friends.

In your case, though, I don’t think you have to invite them. I’m sure many of them understand and would realise that the family is pretty big and, a month out from the wedding, I don’t think you need to send out last-minute invitations.

If you want, perhaps just organise a more laidback party for all the cousins you couldn’t invite – do a big BBQ at your house where you can officially meet them, or go out to dinner at a nice restaurant, whatever works for you guys.

Post # 4
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@LadyElva:  I think this is a great idea. I think it will also save any hurt feelings in being invited at the last moment or the thought of being on the ‘b list’.  Have a more inexpensive party to get to know them and have them over to celebrate your marriage and union to the family!

Post # 5
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012


why not.  call them, send invites… tell them what happened.  

Post # 6
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My SOs family is similar but they are not local at all. I think it’s nice that you want to invite them and I understand why. Unless your Fiance specifically doesn’t get along with them or something, I think you can invite them. I guess you can’t manage the guestlist (meaning invite a few less other people to make space for these) since it’s so close to the wedding.. but if you have some wiggle room maybe just invite them with an “adults only” invitation, saying that due to guest list/space issues you want to be able to acccomodate all the cousins.

I doubt you can literally accommodate 42 more people though so I’m not sure..Maybe you can do a family gathering celebration the day after the wedding like a family bbq or something and just have family only (all of his) and just your parents/siblings.

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