(Closed) This Might Be It

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun away! Please! Just run. You can do it. I am a crier too but that does not mean you are not strong. You are.

Post # 5
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2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Gosh.

This sounds very similar to my previous relationship- with the exception that he never asked to marry me.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I know what you mean when you say love is like being brainwashed, but you have to ask yourself, do you want to live a life of fear- always thinking, suspecting, and never knowing when this man is going to bail out on you.

I left.

I met another man. We are now married, and happy and there is trust, implicit trust. 

You deserve better, but only you can tell what your breaking point will be- a bunch of strangers on the internet cannot do that for you.

 

((hugs))

Post # 6
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Girl, this is going to probably be a bit harsh but….. he cheated on you TWICE. Kick his ass to the freakin curb. Cheaters are going to cheat, especially if you show them that you’ll forgive them afterwards.

Trust and mutual respect is a big factor in a good relationship and it sounds like you have neither of those things. Time to move on. You deserve so much better. Do what you gotta do to get out, and quick.

Something to think about. You should love people for who they are, not who you want them to be. You can’t count on someone to change.

Post # 7
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

((((HUGS)))))

putting his selfish and immature behavior aside , your fiance has shown you nothing but disrespect throughout your entire relationship. You need to know what your life is worth – and if you think you deserve this treatment then by all means stay , but i think you and I both know that you deserve better , and you need to put a a higher price tag on yourself. He has exemplified nothing more than a cheating bastard in my opinion..

good luck 

Post # 9
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2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You need to move in with your parents and GO. Wait til he leaves one day, for work or whatever, and just pack up and leave. Living with them til you get on your feet is better than this shit.

Post # 10
Member
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@nobodyknows: You’re absolutely right. That’s not how relationships are supposed to be.

Post # 11
Member
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Holy shit please leave this scumbag. You deserve much better. So much better, in fact, that even if he did magically improve, it would not be enough to give you what you deserve.

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I would do what others suggested and pack up when he’s working or something and just leave. Cut all contact. You don’t want to be dragged into the relationship again…and again…and again. Just leave, girl. It’s for the best.

Post # 12
Member
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I promise if you leave, this time next year you will look back and realize how much happier you are. I have been through this exact situation…except I waited until he cheated over 5 times. And with my best friend. And I had never been so miserable in my life.

But I am so much happier now. And I met my wonderful man 5 months after I finally left him…I know it seems impossible, but you CAN do it. You are NOT weak. 

 

Post # 14
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2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@nobodyknows: 

Who cares?? Honestly, why do you care whose fault she thinks it is? She clearly did a poor job raising her son, let them think whatever they want while you get on with your life. His mom is not going to make things better. You’re the only one who can get yourself out of this.

Post # 15
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470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is so sad!  I’m sorry you’re going through this.  You are not weak.  You need to leave him.  You will struggle at first but you’ll land on your feet and I’m sure your life will be much better without him.  He sounds sounds like a major jerk and you could do MUCH better than that.  You definitely deserve much better than this.

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