Post # 1
some of you may remember a week or so back i posted about my BIL’s brother getting married three weeks before me (when they are not even engaged yet) and asked my sister/MOH to be their Maid/Matron of Honor too. I was so upset because being so close to my day, and with my sister’s demanding job, it interfered bigtime with my shower, bach party, and wedding day. I felt that my thunder had been stolen. The one time in my life that a big event is not overshadowed by my sister, and someone else had to swoop in five months before the event and steal my spotlight.
My sister told me that she didnt want to be in their wedding, and she was only going to do it out of obligation to her husband. Didnt change the way i felt about it.
Well, apparently she has been dancing around the answer, not giving the brother’s girlfriend/fiancee/whatever the hell you want to call her, an answer on being her Maid/Matron of Honor. My mom called me last night and told me that the girl lost her patience and asked someone else to be her Maid/Matron of Honor, giving up on my sister!
So, now she only has to take the day off in July for my wedding, and one day off in June for my shower! She told my mom that she is not taking off for the brother’s wedding, she will only go if she happens to be off that day. I am so relieved i could cry. True sisterly bond right there! Her loyalty is to me! I am so happy.
Like i said before, it might make me a bad person, but i am so happy!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
@MrsWinTraining2014: haha i’d be selfishly excited too. yay for you!
Post # 4
Yeah, it’s unfortunate that your happiness is coming at the sake of someone else’s. Glad you got what you wanted, I guess?
Post # 5
How are they not engaged if they have a wedding date set? Sounds like a perfectly valid use of the word “engaged” to me…
Post # 6
@abbie017: I dont even know the brother’s girlfriend. Ive met her one time, for about two minutes. i dont even know her last name, how am i supposed to feel guilty? Besides, she has a Maid/Matron of Honor, its just not my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 7
@KateByDesign: he never asked her to marry him, she is planning this wedding and he is just going along with it. That, to me, says they are not engaged.
Post # 8
@MrsWinTraining2014: Planning a wedding = Engaged. You don’t have to have a proposal to be engaged.
Post # 9
@jbh13: even so. Not the point of the post. Point is, i have my Maid/Matron of Honor back, all to myself!
Post # 10
@KateByDesign: + 1. Engaged means ”engaged to get married”. They are planning and they have the date set for their wedding day, they cannot be more engaged than that.
Is this thread a joke ? I can hardly believe someone would brag multiple times about having a Maid/Matron of Honor ”all for herself”. I’m confused.
Post # 11
@MrsWinTraining2014: This is so strange, congrats I guess? I pretty much always check out when the term “stolen thunder” is used. My suggestion is to not make it a race or popularity contest between you, your sister and the SIL. You’ll be much happier in life, and at least much more tolerable to the rest of the family!!
Post # 12
Yay, you have your sister all to your self…and you sound like a spoiled child…yay
Post # 13
I’m so confused, so many bee’s tell waiting bee’s to not plan anything unless there is at least some form of MUTUAL timing plan. The OP stated that the girlfriend just started planning a wedding without any input from her byofriend (OP’s brother). Now I know that if a bee posted something like that in the waiting forum (which has actually happened) every poster would be wondering why she’s even planning in the first place. So how is OP’s situation any different?
They are not planning, OP’s brothers girlfriend is. But whatever, congrats OP and I don’t think you’re being selfish at all!
Post # 14
If you don’t even know the brother’s girlfriend then how could they possibly be stealing your spotlight? Also, if they are planning a wedding, they are obviously engaged.
Anyway, congrats on having your Maid/Matron of Honor all to yourself.
Post # 15
@HisBride515: thanks, im glad you get where im coming from! its not selfish to want my Maid/Matron of Honor to myself during the last few months of the wedding planning.
I dont care if i sound like a spoiled child. Im sick of being overshadowed every time something exciting happens for me. My prom, my awards ceremony, my graduation, landing the career of my dreams, every time something good happens for me, somebody else has something happen thats “better” and i get left in the dark to celebrate alone. i deserve happiness just as much as anyone else does. if you dont like reading about my happiness, go find one of the other million threads on this site to read. And no its not a joke.
Post # 16
@MrsWinTraining2014: lol – totally get where you’re coming from. Selfishly happy for you 🙂