Post # 1
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Sugar bee
When we adopted this dog from the couple that had her, they told us before leaving that if it didnt work out we could bring her back because they had other people interested in her.
We have had her a little over a week and im already about to pull my hair out. I know these issues take time to work out but I seriously dont want to deal with it right now, maybe im not ready for another dog afterall, 🙁
She pees constantly!!!! They told us she was potty trained and she will go when taken outside (we take her out every hour or 2 hours because shes so small) but everytime our beagle gets near her she pees, if someone comes over she pees, she pees when she plays. Im not sure if its a nervous, excited habit, or what. The vet said shes fine, no urinary problems…
She chews everything!!!! If she doesnt have a rawhide in front of her or a toy she chews on us, the blankets, the couch, the carpet,herself, anything she can reach! She completely chewed up the plastic dog carrier she was in, you cant even use it anymore! we had to switch to a metal crate instead.
She hates our beagle!!! The day we brought her home she acted possessed lol. she would just go absolutely insane which is weird cause they had a beagle at their house as well lol. they have warmed up to each other but sometimes she will be playing then a switch goes off and she gets REALLY aggressive and mean.
She is also very tiny. I didnt think it would be much of a problem when we got her but our beagle is bigger than most and plays very very rough with her. Im seriously afraid he is going to hurt her.
I feel really bad about having to call these people and ask to bring her back but Darling Husband is upset about it and its causing friction between us. He said he would rather take her back because he “feels like a prisoner” in his own house (he has to keep his music room locked up because she peed on his guitar equipment, chewed cords) We cant leave her outside in the dog area because she is so small and just freezes outside. But we cant leave her inside because she destroys everything. I feel like we were lied to from the beginning, I asked all these questions and they responded that she didnt have any problems 🙁 I just dont think she is a good fit for us. I guess its a chance you take when adopting another dog. Live and learn I suppose….I just feel like she would be better off in a home as an only dog or with other small dogs.
Post # 3
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Worker bee
@MrsRuby: I definitely understand where you’re coming from, I have 2 chihuhuas and one of them I adopted from the humane society and she was previously abused. So she needs special care she pees from nervousness and doesn’t always like to be touched on certain days. It’s hard but it’s a commitment you make when you adopt a dog from a previous owner. As far as my other puppy she isn’t potty trained either yet and it’s super annoying 🙁 Just give it time, if it doesn’t work out than the dog is better off somewhere else at a home where they possibly to have another pet. Certain dogs have special needs unfortunately. Good luck to you
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
We have a new dog too. The peeing is a nervous habit. The chewing, well all puppies do that even ours(: If he doesn’t have a bone to chew on he chews everything in sight! Honestly if your beagle does hurt her maybe she will be a little more causious and not so aggresive? What kind of dog is she? How old?
Post # 6
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Honey bee
Could she possibly just be adjusting??
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
The peeing sounds like submissive urination. It should lessen as she becomes more comfortable.
How much exercise is she getting? Excessive chewing is often a sign that they need more mental and physical stimulation.
I also think you guys might have set your expectations a little too high for a brand new dog to be honest. Even if it she is an adult, you should treat her like a puppy. Supervision at all times to prevent accidents, shoes and other chewables picked up, crated when you’re gone, etc.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I’m concerned about your beagle, who was in the house first. I’d give it a couple of days, but if she’s aggressive to your other dog, I’d be giving the new dog the boot, especially if the people you got it from already have other people interested in it.
Post # 9
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Honey bee
The peeing sounds like submissive urination. My chihuahua had that at first (she had been abused before going into rescue). We just learned to be patient and not approach her in certain ways..instead have her come to us…until she was comfortable with us. It worked itself out pretty quickly.
As far as your beagle…how did you introduce them? Best idea is to do so on neutral territory so nobody is threatened. Since it’s already done, might be a good idea to keep them together but separate until they get used to being around each other. Whenever I bring a new dog into my house (permanent or foster) I keep one dog baby-gated in the kitchen and the other loose for a few days, rotating who is in the kitchn. This way they can see/smell/hear each other and learn that this animal is not a threat.
As good of manners as a dog has, moving to a new home (new people, new environment) can make them revert to some old habits. It just takes a little bit of time and patience. If you are getting fed up, maybe you aren’t ready for the committment. If other people are interested, it might be fairer to let them have a chance at giving her a home.
best of luck.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
our beagle was here first and hes never going anywhere lol. He is 2 years old and the love of Darling Husband life haha.
The couple that had the new dog said its ok for us to bring her back. so thats what we are going to do. I think she has some behavioral issues but on top of it probably nervous around our beagle because hes very dominant and hyper and rough when they play.
It might sound mean but i have a ton of experience with dogs, but overall im just not going to let a dog dictate my life and how i life in my own home. its just not going to happen.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
@MrsRuby: I may not be the best judge, considering our dog we rescued has tested us like no other and has gone through 3 trainers and kicked out of obedience school. My first instinct is to give the dog more time, it took us month with our guy and lots and lots of trial and error before seeing progress, but it will happen!
Some dogs are just such creatures of habit that any disturbance to their routine, settings, different smells, etc will seriously take them a while to adjust. I am careful to re home them too much, because with some patience, they will make great pets!
On the other hand, I dont think rehoming is always a bad thing and it doesn’t make you a bad or irresponsible person. I just think you should give the dog more time and explore some other options before sending it back. I TOTALLY understand the issue of not letting a dog dictate everything, but once you bring them into your household, sometimes things have to change. It was hard for me to adjust to at first, but pets are a huge commitment and I had to relax and set new “pet boundaries”. Aggression won’t be tolerated, but chewing and peeing may just take some time to overcome. Good luck!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
its not just the chewing, peeing stuff that bothers me.
She is just very aggressive towards our dog, she HATES Darling Husband most of the time and im scared to have her out of her kennel when my neices are here because i dont trust her. She growls all the time and im afraid shes going to snap and bite one of kids. I know these problems can sometimes be fixed but Darling Husband is just at his wits end and doesnt want her around. Hes mad at me for it all. Overall its just not a good match.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
@MrsRuby: well if she is being aggressive I would look into rehoming her, if its other ( non aggressive) issues, I would wait it out a bit. I will be very cautious when/if we get any more pets in the future, because you truly never know what issues you will need encounter.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
UPDATE: I called the couple we adopted the dog from to tell her it wasnt working out and asked if we should be bring the dog back to her or rehome her ourselves? she refused to take her back even though that was the deal. Long story short… a family member has adopted her and I couldnt be happier! I know shes going to be well taken care of and super spoiled!
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@MrsRuby: That was pretty low of her to not take her back per your agreement. I’m glad you found a more suitable home for her!
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