(Closed) This question is for everyone who has been cheated on ………….

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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Charliejeorge:  YES!!! When I found out my ex-FI had been cheating on me all 5 years that we were together, I called off our wedding less than 3 months before our date and got through it by reminding myself of those same things. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

I have fears about abandonment, not really being cheated on but more my SO dying and I see someone professional about it.

She tries to teach me mindfulness, being present and not focusing on the “what ifs” – it’s easier said than done but it can help. Those adult colouring books are a great way to focus on something else too. 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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pinklove19:  Good for you girl! Thats awesome. Have you found your keeper??  I’ve just started going on dates, and its really fun. But I’m impatient and really just want to meet Mr. perfect right now! haha

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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Charliejeorge:  I have! I spent about 13 months dating and it was a lot of fun, but I definitely knew I wanted to find mr right. We met in February and both knew within 3-4 months that we wanted to be together forever. I was shocked that I felt that way considering how cautious I was being, but when you know, you know. It also amazed me at how different I felt and how different (and wonderful!) things are with the right guy versus the one I thought was the right guy. We were engaged November 22 and will be married July 30! 

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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pinklove19:  Ahh! Thats so awesome. Im so happy for you! Already, just meeting men who are so much more “interested” than my ex, gives me so much hope. Its hard to believe that there are men out there who really are genuine and sincere, and actaully willing put as much effort into a relationship as I am. I know in my head they have to be out there, but its hard for my heart to believe it. Not that I’m being sceptical or anything, i just have to experience it in a relationship deeper than dates for my heart to believe it haha. 

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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Charliejeorge: Thank you!! It took me a really long time for my heart to accept that. Like you said, I knew it in my head but my heart was still so doubtful from being hurt. You will find someone amazing who treats you like you deserve! 

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warmsoul1101:  I questioned my Fiance for MONTHS because I didn’t believe that there were really men out there who were that amazing and treated women that well. Turns out there are! He’s the real deal and I’m so blessed and thankful that I ended my terrible relationship so that I could find the amazing man I deserve. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

i was unknowingly the other woman in one relationship – he told me he had never been married, then “came clean” to tell me he was divorced. 2 months after we were done for other reasons, his wife called. yeah so that was awful.

the relationship before that, bf was a serial cheater and a lot of people around me knew, and while i suspected/accused, we only broke up when i had proof.

so yep, i was jaded when i met Fiance.

my Fiance is salt of the earth, loyal to a fault. i know i dont have to worry about these things with him but in the beginning i got weird about late night calls, female friends on facebook, “hiding” his phone and the other BS that my ex had put me through. Fiance knew the whole story and while at points thought i was ridiculous, would do whatever was needed to show he had nothing to hide. we’re past that point now, but it did take some time. it’s refreshing to be with someone you truly trust.

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