(Closed) This really sucks

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
16 posts
Newbee

And "B-R-E-A-T-H-E"….tensions are high (which is normal) and you don’t have too much time to go.

Remember to schedule some quiet time for yourself without anyone else, including Fiance, around for a hot bath, a solo blog/journal session at a coffee house, or even a quiet meal out by yourself.  Take the time to focus and center yourself and remember everyone is probably just as excited and looking to the day with joy and anticipation.

Everything will be fine 🙂  I wish you a lifetime of happiness and laughter, love comes out of those.

au revior,

The Occasionista

Post # 4
Member
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are also close (three weeks out) and it seems like everyone has gone nutty.  In the past week, three separate family situations have been brought up.  Grrr!  I’m trying to keep calm and roll with what I can and hold firm on the rest. 

Occasionista has some good advice – schedule some time away to de-stress.  I think weddings can make people crazy and in the heat of everything, the main purpose – joining with your sweetie in front of your nearest and dearest – gets lost in all the madness.

Post # 7
Member
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It’s your Fiance wedding as well, right? I’m assuming that you aren’t talking about him making all the choices, because a lot of woman would die to have their Fiance involved in planning. Suck it up, it’s done. There isn’t anything you can do to change it if he’s already sent the invite anyway. Just relax and enjoy these next couple of days.

Post # 8
Member
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Oh dear, you are having a bad time of it. I’m so sorry. It’s like all your hard work is getting pulled out from underneath you and co-opted by everyone, driving you crazy in the process.

I would be really angry too if my fiance invited people I hated behind my back. But alas you’re stuck with it. However, how many people are coming to your wedding? If it’s anything over 50, then they’re going to get lost in the crowd. You aren’t going to have to spend more than 2 minutes interacting with them (or maybe leave it to your FI?). Concentrate on all the wonderful people that you like that are coming and make sure to spend lots of time with them instead. That’s how I am thinking about dealing with all the people I don’t like that are coming to my wedding (but that I invited because it was important to my parents).

To all the family members driving you crazy, tune them out as much as possible. If they make reasonable requests that you don’t mind coming to fruition, ask whomever makes said request to take care of it themselves if it is so important to them, as you are too busy (too busy…relaxing! :)) to deal with that extraneous detail right now. Then go relax.

Post # 9
Member
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

that’s the way it always is.. especially if you have big ethnic family like mine…

i just told everybody to lay off because this is my day and whatever happens happens. You fiance should help you to deal with all the madness.. mine did all tho guys are guys and they will always do things that make us angry because they don’t always think. 🙂 

Post # 10
Member
7 posts
Newbee

Agreed…it’s his wedding too. Let it go, have a good time at the wedding, and be thankful you won’t start the marriage out by giving your husband something to hold a grudge about.

Post # 11
Member
7 posts
Newbee

The topic ‘This really sucks’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors